Friday, June 1, 2007

Potluck Friday...part X

Dis shole duz look good!



This forum is officially a smash hit. I am excited to present once again POT LUCK FRIDAY.

What I would like to do is get some feed back from some non blogging readers or some bloggers that don't have the time to blog right now. An open forum, if you will. For example, the drama on "The View", American Idol results or how current employers use sites like Myspace as a screening tool to weed out potential employees.

There is no topic off limits! I know that relationship posts are common but be more specific. What element of the relationships? Finding one, keeping one, how to get out of one..all are up for discussion and friendly debate.

I am an information junkie! Garbage in--garbage out! But, I still like to process information. So, I'd like to try to start a day where the readers are in control of every single question, we take the comment that is posted right before you, answer their comment question, then post your own question for the next person. We can discuss it in a civil manner. If it goes well, then it could be really fun. I must exercise more moderation on the personal topics comments. I got a few emails from last week and I must agree that some of the comments were hurtful and should be handled off line...privately. Let's have fun and keep it clean...please. and thank you.

Have a fantastic weekend and let's come up with some great questions to kick around the campfire!

So without further delay.....who is up for the challenge, part 10?

127 comments:

Shai said...

I am first again! LOL.

Shai said...

Who yall think gonna win Detroit or Cleveland?

Go Pistons!!! It aint over at all remember last year. LOL.

dc_speaks said...

well well well...Thank you for being the first victim..i mean commentor..

Cavs baby, Cavs!!!! This isn't last year, SHai.

Question: Do the piston fans still want to hold onto hope?

dc_speaks said...

ANOTHER OPEN QUESTION: DO YOU DETROIT FANS KNOW THAT THE TRIBE BEAT THE TIGERS IN CLEVELAND BEFORE THE CAVS BEAT THE PISTONS IN DETROIT LAST NIGHT?

KIKI said...

@Shai...duhhh? Lmao!

@DC...let 'em have they're dreams for a little while. They'll wake up soon enough.

Question...Is Drew Goodin tryin to grow a tail or did somebody forget to tell him a soul patch goes in the front & not the back?

Unknown said...

DC! Bruh, that pic has me hungrier than 3 fools!

Ah, Sunny Smile aka Shai and the beautiful Kiki! Glad you enjoyed the first position on Bro. DC's blog...and you betta be the first one to drop somethin' in the tip cup after the meal! We'll only know when we know, Ki. LOL!

Hey, what happened to Vanity? I read a blog post on www.okayplayer.com that included a picture of her old group. Now, I want to know if she is still around and how she looks now!

Lo said...

@Shai: Cavs, baby, all the way!!!

@Damon: Pistons fans? What are those? (Don't answer that, hon...it's mockingly rhetorical)

@Kiki: Men should have to get a license to wear a soul patch. It ain't for everybody. They should have to pass inspection.

@Ced It/Meant It: Click HERE to see how Vanity looks now. (Be patient...them flapping butterflies take their precious time loading up.)

Question: How come I'm not in the bed yet??? WTF????

dc_speaks said...

@Lo: that's a very good question...how about because you're hard headed about getting rest for yourself. grrrrrrrr....

question: would you still buy cd's/dvd's off the street from a hustla?

nikki said...

dc: i've done that only a few times and i won't be doing it again.

question: what are your plans for the weekend?

plez... said...

dc,

thanks for dropping by plezWorld... just thought i'd visit your Potluck Friday and let you know that i'll definitely be adding this site to my BlogRoll, so that i remember to visit, often... GO CAVS!

dc_speaks said...

my plans are easy. shake my allergy induced migrains headaches and watch the cavs close out the series, whils prob grillin some chicken.

my Q:Has everyone takenthe testyet?

dc_speaks said...

thanks Plez. was a plum pleasing pleasure to check out your site...I'll be doing the same.

Check out the friday forum and feel free to jump in when.if you like.

I appreciate your efforts on your blog, brah. I'm down.

BK said...

Ok Looka here.. don't be putting all dat food up there and then not talk about FOOD.. LOL

@Shai.. although I would like to see Detroit win.. I would say the Cavs vs. Spurs would make a more interesting NBA Finals.. :) LOL

@ced it.. Vanity has taken the religious road.. I believe she and Pebbles oops whatever her govt name is are now members of the same church..

@dc.. did you say buy cds/dvds? I can't remember the last time I bought them..


question:.. Why do people not get that dress down friday doesn't mean where your tightest pair of jeans and a baby doll tee when you know that the only thing its going to cover is your boobs??? and then get mad when I send them home without pay???? *sigh*

Sheletha said...

Hugg DEEZ, MF!

dc_speaks said...

Bkln diva's q:question:.. Why do people not get that dress down friday doesn't mean where your tightest pair of jeans and a baby doll tee when you know that the only thing its going to cover is your boobs??? and then get mad when I send them home without pay???? *sigh*

Answer: cause they must think that dress down means they don't have to follow any governing rules for appropriate dress. That also means your company has to do a better job of explaining that during the hiring orientation.

Q: turn on the fan or AC?

dc_speaks said...

oh and good morning ya'll...thanks for coming by.

nikki said...

bdiva: DAMN. you telling me i gotta go home and change? fugDAT!

question: are you a morning person or a night person?

dc_speaks said...

@nikki: im both. go to sleep late, get up early.

q: is there anything cool about the drive in movies?

Lo said...

@Bklyn Diva: Because some folks are just HOARS (yup, i spelt it that way) trying to assimilate, and dress-down Friday shows a truer glimpse into their identities than they actually realize.

@Damon: A/C

@Nikki: I'm a morning person who's sometimes a night person because I can't hit the shutoff switch the way I should because I feel the need to get everything done at once. Sometimes it gets me in trouble. Sometimes it gets me crickets.

Question: Is it difficult or easy to relax and let someone treat you like a queen (or king) when you've been used to having to do everything yourself?

dc_speaks said...

*crickets

Shai said...

DC and Kiki: I understand Cleveland hasn't had much in the way of sports for a while so of course hate on us. Pistons been in the East playoffs how many times? LOL.

I wish I could talk ish wit yall today, a sista has a ton of reports due today.

Pistons are still sweet. And remember we did not give the game away. SMH. We made yall work. LOL.

Here is a couple of questions. I know by the time I come back things will be moving here. Have a good day yall I will try to pop in.

Q1: What is your recent pet peeve? (Mine is rude MFs on their cell phones either loud in public or not paying attention driving)


Q2: For the men, do you know how to cook beyond burgers and frying chic?


LOL. Go Pistons!

nikki said...

dc: DRIVE INS ARE THE BOMB! i've been going to the drive in here in atlanta for about a year and let me tell you, the experience is tight. you can bring your own food, bring your own chairs to sit outside (or sit inside and get comfy and uh, intimate...hmmm

a few years ago this dude i was dating took me to the drive in in one of those big body caddies from the 70s. he had the surround sound, leather seats, and a bag of weed. i did NOT inhale.

but the experience itself was cool. we sat in the car, ate popcorn, and massaged each other's feet while watching the movie and cracking jokes. DEFINITELY recommended.

lo: it is HARD HARD HARD, at least for me. i have trust issues, which is why i'm doing the solo thing until i sort 'em out. with my sexual history, i tend to see any attempts at pampering me as merely the prelude to getting me in bed. i always feel there's an ulterior motive, regardless of what the brotha does. not a good look at all.

question: what do you like most about being single/involved in a relationship?

dc_speaks said...

what I like most about being in a relationship?

hmmm: I like the communication, committment, understanding, intimacy, comfort, teamwork, unified fronts against enemies, waking up and kissing her good morning on the forehead and warm butterflies I get when I think about her, taste her lips and touch her skin.

Q: what is the most defining charasteristic you have?

dc_speaks said...

@shai: yes I can cook beyond those items.

&

my most recent pet peeve is folks calling me back in 2 mins when I tell them I will call them back later.

again: my Q:Has everyone taken the test on Lo's blog yet?

KIKI said...

@DC...brutal honesty

Question: Men...big breast or big butt? Ladies...Good looks or big dangalang?

CapCity said...

DAYUM...y'alll startin' up in dis piece at midnight now? this is like sleeping in line for prince tix! LOL!
G'Mornin'2ya! Answers in no particular order -

1)dress down fridays - i wear pj's - would be bucket neked - but i like my windows open w/sunshine streaming in. LOL! maybe it shud be - wk@home fridays;-)
2)gonna go take test when i finish answers
3)vanity - is aLIVE & well - isn't this the ME gen.? Oooohhh - u meant the chick formerly known as prince's sidekick! lol
4)barely buy music from live people anymore thanx to internet & those movies are usually awful off da streets...
5)i prefer breezes, so fans my first choice til it's too hot to bear...
6)mostly a nite person - but in summer i'm both - so i'm tired as heck - but lovin' it! lol
7)i have to consciously let men do for me - cuz of my habit of doing for self...
8)have no pet peeves...Breathe baby - u ain't gon' be here that long - stop giving the world it's power over u
9) I MISS drive-ins - loved chilling on TOP of the car on a blanket (SIGH of melancholy:-) - most are XXX now & that's not my thang...
10) i LOVE coming & going as a single woman (miss the cumming tho:-) LOL!

MY QUESTION:
BIKINI or ONE piece(women); speedos or boxer-styled-type shorts(men)

CapCity said...

Kiki - i gotta have BOTH! LOL

Dangerfield said...

" Question: Men...big breast or big butt? "


mark bey: Ill take the buttocks.


oatmeal or grits?

CapCity said...

oh, dc - missed one o' yours:
defining physical characteristic = my brows; personality = humor

MY QUESTION holds:
2 pc/1pc (women); speedos/boxer style swim suit (men)?

dc_speaks said...

speedos...i ran track. im used to the fit.

q: boxed or home made corn bread?

Dangerfield said...

" boxed or home made corn bread?

mark bey: Home made corn bread brotha dc although I fully admit I have eaten my share of boxed corn bread which is delicious also.

@ dc

either the browns can win the super bowl or the cavaliers can win the championship which one would choose.

Shai said...

@Cap: I understand you are at a place where no much gets ya so easily. I am not there yet. And my venting about a peeve is my breathing. LOL. SMH.

Q: Why do folks trip on others who are very expressive with themselves?

dc_speaks said...

lol...at this point...i'd take the cavs' chances.
Q: verizon, sprint, or alltel

dc_speaks said...

grits...sorry I missed that Mark.

BK said...

@Lolita.. LMAO.. but you right..
@DC.. Ummm yeah hence today is the last day maybe that's why they acting up and didn't expect me to send them home :)

to answer Lolita's ?? - YES it is.. took me 2 yrs to learn and the last 3 yrs have been great! LOL

@KiKi.. can I get a combo of both please.. I gotta be able to look at you man!!!

I took the test on Lo's Blog.. I got a 141.. I barely made it ya'll LOL


Question: Should I take my daughter to see Beyonce in concert although the cheapest nosebleed tickets are like $90??? DAMN

BK said...

@capcity.. a TANKINI best of both worlds LOL

CapCity said...

how come no women answered the bavin' suit question? are all y'all goin' w/o = nude beachers? LOL!

shai - folx in NYC express WITH themselves all the time & it's hilarious, but don't get too close to 'em! LOL! don't know why anyone would have a problem w/expressive folx...can't really answer that one.

I'm IN all day LONG, baby! wha's alltel - a midwest thang?

new question:
HOW many Bloggers have U met in person?

CapCity said...

thanx bklyndiva;-)

CapCity said...

shai - it's cool if u don't want to be at this place & u enjoy peevin' - now i know - i'll leave ya 'lone, boo - just thought u could use help lowering your blood pressure.

dave posted an interesting story on his blog - check it out: Old & young monk. maybe i'm just an old monk...LOL!

happy Friday! i'm out! got a couple of Bloggers to go meet at the BEA!

Dangerfield said...

" Q: verizon, sprint, or alltel "


mark bey: verizon

dc_speaks said...

@capcity: some of my friends became bloggers so they dont count...I pleads the fifthsss....hahahaha

Q: read book or turn on tv to fall asleep?

Shai said...

OK, I am not supposed to be in here. I just gotta vent right quick. This ish I gotta do for month-end reports are mad tedious, actually tedious on top of tedious. SMH. If one more negro asks me a question in the is joint I am going to scream. LOL. This is my first time going solo on this project. Sad thing is the mgrs don't have a clue about what to do with all the data, charts, and reports. LOL. Whew! That felt good.


@Cap: My pressure actually builds if I don't let it out. LOL. One day I will be at your level, maybe. LOL. This is my coping mechanism. I tend to be patient in some areas and not in others.


Q: Do you have a low or high level or tolerance/patience with people/things?

dc_speaks said...

dont let Saadia get into trouble..Cap.

Im entrusting you with our friend

SweetDreams said...

oooooh, what's all this delicious looking food? oh, i'm so hungry, now!

well, since it's potluck - i can answer any question i want, right? it all looks so tasty...

letseehere...sports, no...bed, just got out of mine...vanity - she's such a beauty, reminds me of me when i was young (sigh)...OOOOH, Cap - yes, I love a nude beach! i just wish i could keep the shrivled old men off of it (like my meat young & tender)...fans over a fresh-wet body is fantastic...you all are making me want to get back into bed!

hmm, a question:
when do you think you'll be too old for GREAT sex? this may not be a fair question for men...so, here's a side dish for you:
in your hey day - how often was the MOST often you had GREAT sex in one 24 hour period?

toodles!

Lo said...

@Capcity: Several, although some, like Cort and Shaun were already close friends. Do Juan G. and Lance count as bloggers? I've known Juan for ten years and counting and we have gotten together often over the years, and have known Lance for nearly as long and we try to see each other as well, when the planets line up. And my hubs, natch, but I guess that's a given.

@Damon: Read a book AND have the TV on.

@Shai: High level of patience if the person is someone who's really important to me. No time for foolywangery from others who are just passing through, if they come with drama. If I can genuinely be of service, though, I am patient and caring with everyone in general.

@Sweetdreams: Nine times.

Question: Stay-at-home parent who raises the kids or out in the work force? You can only be one or the other (working from home not allowed in this question). Which would you choose?

nikki said...

lo: stay at home parent. that way i could home school the little brats.

nikki said...

question: would you stay together for the kids?

Cortney Gee and The Celebrity Cane Corsos said...

@Nikki Hell nah staying together for the kids will only lead to dissapointment when you find out your teenager hates you .. not cause of anything you did or didn't do but because he or she just does lol
@Mark I would rather the Browns win the Super Bowl

Question when is it proper to announce to the world you have turned in your playa card

nikki said...

gee: when you genuinely believe it to be the right move.

question: can i skip some questions and answer the ones i like better?!?

Lo said...

@Nikki: No. That would be a tremendous disservice to everyone involved. The parents will resent the fact that they have to live a lie and the kid(s) will feel the tension, no matter what kind of front is put up.

@Cortney: Holy shyte!!! Is the world coming to an end? Is that a fiery chariot I see coming from the sky? Okay, okay, let me calm down and answer your question. When you really, truly mean it in your heart and can back up your word with your actions. You have no intention of being with anyone else other than your beloved, and nothing can sway you from that---not new or old p*ssy or d*ck. Nothing. You think of yourself as a part of a pair and consider what is best for both of you, not yourself.

(Damn. Was I on a soapbox just then?)

Question: Can a former playa be with one woman for the rest of his life? (Same applies for a woman who's always required variety.)

Shai said...

@Nikki: Home schooling? LOL. Not this sista. I was so glad when my child got into all day school. LOL. I needed the break to spend ALL day with her and do housework, NOT!

Cortney Gee and The Celebrity Cane Corsos said...

Lo I believe that a playa can truly change his or her çolors

Lance said...

i hate coming on this post late in the game. good comments from all. i'm drinkin' a sam adams boston ale right now as you negroes (official and unofficial) continue the journey....lol

"Can a former playa be with one woman for the rest of his life?"
- LO

yeah, after you can't get it up no mo' and you need somebody to cook!...lol

Lance said...

CG, whaddup my negroid friend? what it be like?

Lo said...

@Cort: Alright, now!!! That's what I'm talking about.

@Lance: Jaded a little? Damn. LOL.

Question: Can you ever recover from a bitter breakup/divorce that causes you wholesale hurt, or does it leave psychic skidmarks for the rest of your life that prevents you from ever loving wholly again?

Cortney Gee and The Celebrity Cane Corsos said...

Variety is overrated. I wish that I could remember all of my conquest but I can't and seeing I can't remember all of them what a waste of energy and time variety has been .Laughing at you implying that revalation must be upon us if I'm considering settling down..

There comes a time in ever man's life when he gets tired of fooling around ,juggling hearts in a three ring circus some day will drive a body down to the ground ...

Question other than Lo is there anyone on the blog that can tell me the artist that wrote this song and which cd it comes from?

Lo said...

Hey Cort, did you take my test? If not, get your a$$ over there. I want proof of what I think I already know. Get Chocolate V to take it, too. I think y'all might be, um, birds of a feather.

Cortney Gee and The Celebrity Cane Corsos said...

Lance what up big dawg? You know I have a question just for you .. did you hit it when you was in NC or are we all just believing in your mackdom and She She actually is telling the truth when she says you didn't

Lo said...

"Variety is overrated. I wish that I could remember all of my conquest but I can't and seeing I can't remember all of them what a waste of energy and time variety has been .Laughing at you implying that revalation must be upon us if I'm considering settling down.."

WTF????????? What is this, Bizarro World?

*looking for my flak jacket and heading for cover*

Lo said...

Question: Have you ever wanted to be another race?

Lance said...

good querstion lo.

havin' been there & done that, after the divorce (especially if you DIDN'T file and tried your best to save it) you feel like you've lived a lie.

mostly it's your ego that saying that shit in yo head like "she'll come back" or "it's only just a phase"...like the fuckin' moonrise.

but overall, it takes time to get over the wounds. (AT LEAST SIX YEARS) some get over quickly due to fact they either jump in bed with someone else quick to hide from their emotions or date on the rebound but in those rebound scenarios, (WOMAN LEAVES MAN) if the ex realizes they were wrong and your heart has ANY feeling for her and especially if they are the mother of your children and she has the kids, more than likey...you'll break the heart of the rebound to get back with mama.

as far as psychic skidmarks, i'd be lying to say "no", but as skidmarks are they generally fade away with time, weathering the storm.

Lance said...

@CG... a true playa never tells...lol

"Have you ever wanted to be another race?"

i think we all have to some degree, when we were kids. but i think when ROOTS came out, the shit hit the fan!

JustMeWriting said...

y'all still minding they bitness huh...lol. (as I'm minding your's) LOL.

Time out or Spankings? (yall know I never really have a question...since I've got all the answers...LOL. sike)

Cortney Gee and The Celebrity Cane Corsos said...

Lo I took the test and of course I passed it in true nigga fashion. Vee is at work when she gets on I'm sure she'll be all over the test...funny thing happened last night ran into some ladies that were very much not caring about me being Cortney Gee but they found out via Vee that I was Sleazy and a good friend of yours Lo and they couldn't get enough of me ... of course I was not happy wif dat shit hehehehehe

question would you rather be famous or infamous

Cortney Gee and The Celebrity Cane Corsos said...

Lance I agree and a real playa always bets on the playa ... my money was on you dude hahahaha

Shai said...

Ok, Lo I took the test. I am a half breed. LOL. I can sway from one spectrum to another. LOL.

Q: Pork or Beef ribs?

Lance said...

@justme: "WHUP DAT ASS!!!!"

@CG: infamous to "be" famous, but not famous to "be" infamous. like a serial killer famous, naaah mean?

Lance said...

shai, being frum noff kacka-lachey...
PORK IS KING!!!!!!

...the other white meat.

Lo said...

@Cort: Neither. Fame (and infamy) are overrated. I just wanted to be appreciate for my contributions to the world. You can have the limelight.

Question: If you could only have one for the rest of your life, which would it be, straight f*cking or cuddling, love, and affection with no sex?

Lance said...

LOL@LO...are you "fuckin'" kiddin'????...

Lo said...

ROFL @Lance!!!

Lance said...

for the ladies...

a generous rich man with a little dick or a poe, broke ass mutha-fucka with a "john holmes"?...GO!!!!!

Shai said...

I had a post on my blog about venting can be like showing my soiled undies. LOL. I was like Huh?

Is venting such a bad thing?

Lo said...

@Lance: Neither.

My original question still stands: If you could only have one for the rest of your life, which would it be, straight f*cking or cuddling, love, and affection with no sex?

Lance said...

"Is venting such a bad thing?" - Shai

not if you wanna die from high blood pressure, hypertension and/or a stroke.

Lance said...

okay, okay...all jokes aside lo.

straight fuckin', all the time is overrated. spontaneity is what works for me. mix in a little romance. a little cuddlin'...it's all like tossin' extra logs in the fireplace to keep the fire going.

Shai said...

@Lance and Lo: Yall really asking some hard questions. LOL. I would take a man with no money and a good d and least he has potential to earn more money, dude with the short d how can he improve things unless he does some oral well. LOL.

Fing or cuddling, hmmm... I cannnot answer this one now. LOL.

If you could be anywhere right now where would it be?

Shai said...

@Lance: how is venting going to cause that? I don't do it all the time plus some folks hold stuff and then they explode. I do think what you vent about, how you vent and how often makes the difference.

nikki said...

lo: i'll take the cuddling and stuff
shai: i'd be upontopovehim

question: do you think it's really possible to mend a relationship if one or both has cheated emotionally or physically?

Lance said...

my bad shai, i wrote it incorrectly:

it should have read:
vent, unless you wanna die from high blood pressure, hypertension and/or a stroke.

good querstion.

Lance said...

"do you think it's really possible to mend a relationship if one or both has cheated emotionally or physically?"

all about prayer and forgiveness. take either or both out, ain't gonna work.

after you get past these two words, then respect, honesty and trust will follow. as far as love..that's down the road. gotta become friends first, then lovers.

Lo said...

@Shai: In London with my hunnybunny.

And Shai...girl, vent on all you want. It's your party. Get it out how you can.

Shai said...

Ok, gotcha Lance. :)


Is can sex be stressful at some point and time?

Lo said...

@Nikki: I think it would be really, really, really hard to recover from something like that. It can happen, but some very difficult work has to take place with both parties. Once you let someone infiltrate your union, your whole foundation gets shot. It's hard to rebuild a foundation when a house is already standing on top of it. The house falls in. Attempting to rebuild everything might not be worth the effort.

Shai said...

@LO: Am I lost or are you and DC really an item? LOL.

@Nikki: I believe that it is possible to mend a broken relationship after an affair. It would take great faith, strength, prayer and patience.


@My question: I would to be away from Detroit and in NYC at the Book Expo this weekend. :( A sista needs a change of scenery and I want a bunch of free books and meet my online peeps and authors.


Audio book or printed book?

Lo said...

@Shai: Haven't had stressful sex yet, thank goodness.

Question: Is there such a thing as too much sex?

Shai said...

I agree with Lo about the affair thing. It would take BOTH parties. Forgiveness is the beginning. Many cheaters think a good apology, being forgiven and promising not to do it is all it takes. When the effort on both parts is what will build the relationship back up. I have watched how one person cheats, asks for forgiveness and then thinks the acceptance ends the problem and stuff goes back to normal like nothing happened. NOT!


Q: Other than money and ID, what is a MUST when you go on a trip?

Lo said...

Oh, and Shai, to answer your question about me and Damon, yes, it's real.

Lance said...

Is can sex be stressful at some point and time?

yeah, when you ain't gettin' any!...lol

Is there such a thing as too much sex?

not when you're fittin' to bust a nut!...lol

Shai said...

@Lo: Aww, that is nice. I asked cause I know some folks have Net mates. If ya get me. LOL.

@ my question, sex can be stressful and frustrating if the person has to be taught and if you have to adjust to dif sex schedules. LOL. One time I would have rather slept than sexed. LOL.


Ok, my question and back to work. See yall later.

Q: What food seasoning would best describe your personality?

Lo said...

@Shai: Thanks, girl. Much appreciated.

The seasoning that best defines me: Chinese five spice.

Question: How soon is it appropriate to marry after someone is newly-divorced?

dc_speaks said...

what a wonderful hostess you are, Lo...Hey ya'll!!!

Sorry to have missed the fun..or some of it anyway...I just read every last comment..

Ya'll are too much.

@Shai: I can't believe you're just now getting that information..

Food seasoning question: Black pepper---use t on almost everything, without it u know its missing, with it u barely notice. off in da cut, spice.

@My lady: whever the couple decides to tie da knot. anything other than that involves someone else's persepctive which doesn't mean squat.

Q: when the hell am i going to get over the allergy migraines?

nikki said...

lance: sex is stressful right after a sista has given birth. at least give her time to heal dude!

shai: accent flavor enhancer, cuz i ain't here to make you taste good, i'm here to make you taste betta!

lo: i think that depends on the person. i think the shortest span is six months to a year and that's if the person had been emotionally out of the previous relationship long before the divorce is final.

now if the divorce wasn't that person's idea, then i'd give dude at least 1.5 to two years, maybe even longer.

question: what would you prefer to go without first, sight or hearing?

Lo said...

Wow, great question, Nikki!

I'd say hearing, because I'm highly-visual and relish the constant influx of images.

Question: Dental work, weight loss, or great skin? Which would you choose if you needed all, but could only have one?

nikki said...

lo: weight loss. i've got all my teefes and my skin ain't hideous, but i've got enough junk in the trunk to set up shop next to the sanfords and give them a run for their money.

question: what are five things you appreciate everyday? can't be things concerning family...

Sweet KeiKei said...

wow....i've seen the potluck fridays but never really read all of the comments and stuff until today. this is hella cool!!!

@nikki: i would rather lose my hearing...

question for the men: do you prefer long or short hair on women???

Sweet KeiKei said...

@lo: definitely dental work... skin u can put makeup on and being big is aiight as long as u clean but we cant play when it comes down to the toofus!!!

Lo said...

@Nikki: 1) God's grace 2) God's gifts 3) My health 4) My man and my true friends 5) Infinite chances

@unknowndiva: Welcome! It's fun over here!

Question: If you could only have one meal a day, which would one it be: breakfast, lunch, or dinner?

Sheletha said...

lunch....


What color shirt are you wearing right now?

Little Brown Girl said...

I'm a newbie *hope that's ok* but this is cool...

I'd say Lunch (with a snack after LOL) I figure if I have something halfway through the day my brain/body will have something to look forward to and then something to hold it until the next day. Waiting for Dinner would be torture and I already dont eat breakfast. Although I sure hope I really dont have to give up dinner...thats my favorite me. Its when I usually straight pig out.

Question: If you HAD to switch lives with a celebrity of the opposite sex who would it be and why?

Sweet KeiKei said...

@lo: definitely dinner

@shaletha: cream

@royce's daughter: michael jordan because he is smooth, laid back, confident, sexy and successful

dc_speaks said...

heyyyyyyyy...new people. welcome ya'll all are welcome...all are welcome.

celebrity question: Queen of England---would be gret to be worshipping just under God by a whole nation.

Question: moonlight stroll along the beach or daytime stroll in the park?

dc_speaks said...

welcome unknown diva and royce's daughter...

as always, my sweetheart is the wonderful hostess

Lo said...

@Sheletha: A white hoodie. (No, Damon, the hood isn't over my head.)

@Royce's Daughter: Welcome! I would switch with Will Smith. We have the same birthday and I just love everything about him, especially his appreciation for always learning more and the way he is with people.

@Damon: Moonlight stroll along the beach.

KIKI said...

Dang ya'll...ok I'll just pick up with the last question...

@royce...Eric Bennet cuse he's a sex addict LOL...'nuff said

Question: If you know someone who has wronged you (friend, lover, etc)is in need of money & you know someone wants to offer them a job, do you tell that person or let them stay broke?

dc_speaks said...

lo...ur going to make me cry. that was a beautiful answer.

ok...my bad.

KIKI said...

@DC...moonlight stroll on beach

Lance said...

*** LO?!!!! ***
*** DAMON?!!! ***

WHY DON'T Y'ALL GET A HOTEL ROOM OR SUMPTHIN'?!!!!...LOL!!!!

...it's so obvious.... (;-P

Little Brown Girl said...

@ DC...definitely a moonlight stroll on the beach (I am a beach baby...no really I was born on a beach LOL)

@ kiki..I'd let them stay eff' dat *Lord Forgive* Ok Ok...I'd tell them only cause I know God would bless me for being so selfless, but secretly I'd be hoping they get fired shortly thereafter LOL!

Lo said...

@Damon: Okay, as long as it's a good cry. I never want to cause you to have bad ones.

@Kiki: ROFL at us getting a room!!!

Okay, back to your question, Kiki. Wow. That's some dilemma. Depends. You can forgive a person for what they've done to you, but that doesn't mean you forget. You can just eliminate them from your world and keep it moving without feeling responsible for their livelihood. There are exceptions, though. If they wronged you in a way that shows they have no regard for human decency, then they might do the same in a work situation with someone you refer them to. Best to not make the referral. If the reason you were wronged was because of differences of opinions and emotions and what you both wanted from the relationship, then no harm, no foul. You may be blocking your own blessings by blocking theirs.

Question: It's your last moment of life. Whose face is the last you'd like to see before the lights permanently go out?

(I know, it sounds morbid, but I don't mean it that way.)

Sweet KeiKei said...

@lo: tough question...it would be my baby's face but at the same time i don't know if i would want her to remember me like that. i would want her to remember the good times.

re: your comment to damon...i know i'm new up in here n all dat but er a ummmm....yall definitely need to get a room!!! :)

Lo said...

ROFL @ Unknowndiva!!!

Sweet KeiKei said...

naw...j/k

black luv is beautiful!!!

Lo said...

New question: What's more important, love or money?

KIKI said...

@LO...I've had my fill of love...SHOW ME THE MONEY!

Question: Back-rub or foot massage?

Lo said...

@Kiki: Back rub, most definitely!

Question: To have someone grease your scalp (Dave, if you're out there, this is a black thang) or scratch your scalp?

dc_speaks said...

"WHY DON'T Y'ALL GET A HOTEL ROOM OR SUMPTHIN'?!!!!...LOL!!!!"

um...how about we get a house with lots of rooms in it? A room is borrowed space. We are going to create a future together...get it right!

dc_speaks said...

@Lo: both please...hahahah. u already know my preference on that question.

Q: arms around the waist walking or holding hands walking?

KIKI said...

@DC...I find walking together with arms around each other awkward, especially if one gets of step, so holding hands for me.

Question...can you come help yo girl out, cause Shai over at my spot talkin mad ish AND I NEED BACKUP!?(Bring Lo wit ya!)LOL!

KIKI said...

ooops...type-o...that was supposed to read"gets OFF step".

dc_speaks said...

what?! oh yeah...i'll be right over.

(hanging up da bat phone)

screeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeechhhhhhhhh

KIKI said...

Thanks DC-Man...once again you've used your powers to save the day!

Question...Will that villan Shai except defeat or will she rise again to fight another day? LMAO!

Ray said...

@ Mark " Question: Men...big breast or big butt? "

I will take Big Breastisis for 100 Alex lol

oatmeal or grits?

Grits sho nuff, w/ Cheese

Lo said...

@Kiki: Isn't Damon great at saving the day?

@Ray: You should to go over and take the 'How Black Iz You?' test on my blog. Some people have found it to be quite a revelation about themselves.

KIKI said...

LOL...yes he is, Lo! That's one great guy you've got there! HOLD ON TO HIM!...cause BELIEEEEEVE ME...brothers like DC are few & far between!

dc_speaks said...

Thank you for that KiKi...that's very very sweet of you to say that.

It's true...but I appreciate you saying it. smile.

I made the transition to Mr Right from Mr. Wrong and Mr. Right Now for the best woman for me...Lolita Files!

KIKI said...

"It's true...but I appreciate you saying it."...you so silly!

You are most welcome homie...you know me...I wouldn't say it if I didn't think it were true!