Monday, June 25, 2007

Monday Musings



It's Monday Musings time again. Over the weekend, I had an opportunity to bond with my Godson, Luis. A handsome young fellow that just graduated from high school and is embarking on a new life journey as a United States Marine.

and enjoyed several pieces of this...

When he told me months ago, that he wanted to go into the armed services, I was both shocked and slightly disappointed. I know the state of affairs when it comes to the war going on and dreaded the possibility of having someone that close to me potentially headed over into war.

I took advantage of several moments to tell him that I supported him and love him, but inside I felt worry and fear. If I let that show, would I put unfair pressure on him? Yeppers, I surely would have.

I guess seeing the amount of people dying for a war that I don't personally see a need for confuses the issue of me wanting to see him enlist in the service. In reality, he has things all planned out over the next 5 years of his life and I know people that are twice his age that are clueless about their lives.

I wonder if it's normal to be proud and have dread at the same time about the same thing. They say that two pieces of matter cannot occupy the same space at the same time. Someone should come up with a similar explanation for human emotions.

Am I tripping---or what?

Who's up for Monday Musings query?

41 comments:

blaackgurl said...

Happy Birthday DC!!!! Enjoy your special special day!!!!! I'm sure my sis has something very planned for you.

Happy Monday!!!

dc_speaks said...

heyyyyyyyyy Yvette!!!! Thank you so much for that. You're so sweet. See ya next week. smile!

mark said...

I wonder if it's normal to be proud and have dread at the same time about the same thing. They say that two pieces of matter cannot occupy the same space at the same time. Someone should come up with a similar explanation for human emotions.


mark bey: Of course DC, also please remember the human motions that we have given deffinition to do not quite trascend the nuance of reality, spirituality or human emotions.

John Thompson's two sons coached against each other at georgetown earlier this year. He said on the one hand he was proud and happy that both of his sons had made it to the coaching ranks but the fact that one had to lose took away from his joy in his sons. He was being pulled in 2 different directions.

mark said...

Oh I forgot happy birthday dc and best wishes to the young man getting ready to join the military.

dc_speaks said...

heyyyyyyyyyy, Mark. that was a well timed reminder about coach Thompson.

Thanks for the well wishes for my guy, Luis and yayyyyy it is my birthday officially. I appreciate ya, brother Mark.

dc_speaks said...

hmmmm...something about bitter sweet just came to mind after readin gyour comment too , Mark. thanks again.

ja stu sister lock journey said...

Happy Birthday to you DC, hope you have a blessed day, and good luck and god,s speed to Luis as he ventures to the military.

Lo said...

Happy Birthday, hon!!!

Y.O.U.'.R.E. THE BESTEST!!!

dc_speaks said...

thank you thank you Ja Stu....

Nic said...

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!!!!!!!!HAPPY BIRTHDAY DC!!!!!!!!

dc_speaks said...

Heyyyyyy, lady Lo! who me? nahhhh.....ok...

(blushing)

dc_speaks said...

good morning, nic. Thank you, miss lady.

Nic said...

No, I don't think you're trippin' at all. I would be scared out of my mind. But just keep being strong for him. I'm sure everything will be fine.

Have a great day!

CreoleInDC said...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY BABY BROTHER!

My cousin came to me for advice a couple of years ago regarding joining the Army. I told him flat out no and wrote him a check to buy his books for school. He's about to graduate college this December and two of his friends are STILL over in the Middle East.

I don't feel bad for not wanting him over there. I wouldn't want him to drive without wearing his seatbelt either.

Musing: WHY IS ANN COULTER STILL GETTING AIR PLAY?

Ray said...

Yo yo Mr D.C., this be your boy your ace the one n only Big_raydogg tha supasoulskater all the way from the 6-1-Ducee. Wishing you a very happy birthday brotha. Look for a shout out for you on my blog oh and since it is your Birthday this week, if you like I will let you pick this week's throwback thursday but get at me and tell me what you wanna hear.

PEACE and Much Luv

Lo said...

@CreoleInDC: Ann Coulter is a #%@!&%! joke. (I actually poke fun at her in my last book.) Why legitimate (so-called) news programs and roundtables continue to have her on baffles me. She's no different than a terrorist, in my book. And she's a joke. She must have some dirt on some of these neo-cons, because other than that, her relevance makes no sense.

dc_speaks said...

what up Big Sis? thanks for the birthday shout out. Yeah, Luis wants no part of staying home to go to college. I asked him about that. He wants to let the marines pay for it.

lol..I have no understanding why that woman still gets love like that...beats me.

dc_speaks said...

big rayyyyyy...thank you, sir. I will get at you about the throw back artist too. I have a few in mind. I appreciate the love, homie. Straight up...I do! I will be holla'in atcha.

dc_speaks said...

@Lo...hey honey, why don't you tell us how you really feel about her. hahahahahahaha

Dave said...

Is today your birthday? Blessings and best wishes!

Seems to me what you are trying to reconcile is your love for him, vs. your hatred for the war, which you don't believe in. You feel conflicted just standing by allowing him to make what you feel deep down, is a very bad decision.

But then again, maybe you haven't fully defined how you feel about the war? I'm thinking that if you were dead set against it, and you felt 100% it was bad, you might try and dissuade him more... but I don't know.

dc_speaks said...

hey, Dave. Yeppers it is.

great point about the internal conflict. I am dead set against the war. I just an all for making decisions as a man and having support from your loved ones. I am all for allowing someone to "be his own man" in this case.

you did raise an interesting point though. thanks!

chokkklitsoul said...

Happy B-day DC!!! Hope your day is filled with many blessings and lot's of love!


Chokkkkk

dc_speaks said...

good morning to ya, chokkk. My day has been filled with mad love already and I have about 14.5 hrs more to go. yayyyyyyy.

Thanks for the shout out!

@everyone: this outpouring of love is very very kind and thoughtful.

Shai said...

Happy Birthday DC.

Sojourner G said...

Birthday? Happy Happy! As far as the pride/dread thing...ABSOLUTELY. It's like loving the sinner but hating the sin. You're proud of the person, but not of the circumstance in which they may find themselves. I have family in the military. I support them and I pray.

The Diva's Thoughts said...

Oh goodness that is scary.....watching someone go over to war and potentially never come back is one of the most difficult things to endure.

Ms. Behaving said...

I understand why you would have mixed feelings about being happy for him but worried for him just the same.

There's a lot to be said however for a young man who knows what he wants out of life because like you said (in so many words), there are a lot of adults who still have yet to figure out where their going.

It's great that you let him know you loved him and you're proud of him because that's certainly important.

Let us ALL keep him in our prayers

HAPPY BIRTHDAY DC!!!!

tAnYeTTa said...

Happy Birthday DC! Doing the happy dance for you! You don't look a day over 21~ :)

Well, as many of you know, I'm married to a US Marine. The LOVE of my life. Since day one, I've always had the PRIDE and DREAD for his safety. Just the same as I do driving down the street.

It's all DANJA-RUSS! :)

So I will just leave it at that.

Have a great week people!

--T

dc_speaks said...

@Shai...thank you, my friend. truly.

@soj G: well put. thanks for illustrating a very simple expalnation for me. it eluded me while i was in the situation, but becoming clearer to me today. I was sick about it on saturday..i didnt leave him til after 1am

dc_speaks said...

@the diva, yeah aint that the truth.

@ms B: heyyyyyyy lady...gotta let a man be a man..i heard that. and thanks for the shout out.

@Tanyetta: you are a perfect example of what Im talking about. yet, its your husband, so im sure that brings about another level of emotions.

thank you all for the supporting comments..it's great to have a sounding board like this today.

((((hug)))) to everyone of you!!

UnKnownDiva said...

HAPPY B-DAY DC!!!

U AND LO ENJOY!!!

Lola Gets said...

I think you can and should support the man and not the mission/war. Thats what I do with my cousin who is in the Air Force. But thats a little different, since hes not on the ground in Iraq, I dont have but so many worries.
L

Lola Gets said...

Oh, Happy Birthday!
Mines is on Wednesday.
:)

♥Lil'_Ms_Outspoken♥ said...

HAPPY B-DAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! =)

WISH YOU MANY MANY MORE!! (LOL)

dc_speaks said...

@unknown diva: thank you ma'am..we will continue to enjoy.

@Lola Gets: thanks for re-assuring me...lol. oh and happy early birthday to you..(smile)

@lil ms: much appreciated lil lady. How was your weekend and thanks for the participation on Pot Luck Friday.

Dave said...

I know just how you feel. Hardest thing a parent can do is learn to let their kids make bad mistakes. That is a huge character strength man.

CreoleInDC said...

LOL @ Lo. You hate her too huh? ROFL!

plez... said...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, DC... thanks for the birthday wishes at my spot! *smile*

it is quite courageous of Luis to join the Marines during this time of war! i wish your Godson the BEST... and pray that GOD truly blesses him during this time of war and strife.

dc_speaks said...

Hey, Plez. I appreciate ya, brotha. Yeah, it is pretty courageous...I looked at it like that too.

@Dave: I'd have to agree...really. You are allright with me dude. even though you're from MI...LOL

@Big Sis: she can answer you herself. hahahaha

Veroncia said...

Happy Birthday DC!

As the sister of a career Army man who has been called up for deployment twice, but spared from being sent, I know for a fact that both emotions are valid and true. The Army has helped to made my brother a wonderful, strong man. But at the same time, I'm counting the days until his retirement two years), so I don't have to worry about him going to Iraq.

dc_speaks said...

Hi, Veroncia. wow, thats pretty deep. Glad he has ben spared the trip. I know the armed forces does things for young men and women. He's already a good kid, he can only get beter, right? (smile)

Thanks for the b-day wishes too. Have a fantastic evening.