Over the weekend, I had some time to think about today's blog. Originally It was going to be a ha ha, funny type of post but before I did that...I had to clear my head on some other things. In fact, I challenge everyone to look inside themselves and learn to be happier. Let's throw this one around the campfire!
I was pondering relationship patterns of future, current and past situations. Even in the course of a recent conversation, I was told that when romance is over, How do I get past it so fast? What is the deal breaker that allows for me to push on and get past people. I had to seriously give thought to both male and female relationships. What is the cut off point? Whose fault is it? When did things change? Was it really as bad as it seemed at the time? Was that person cheating, if so..what did I do create the setting? Why me?....wasn't I good enough? Was that person immature and did I just find out too late? Did I believe that my trust was misused? Was that person just a worthless piece of sh*t? Is it worth it to maintain communication?
How does it look to my loved ones? If someone told me to beware of the relationship, would I have listened or tell them to mind their own business? Is it bad to put myself first sometimes? Or...am I just damaged goods from my last failed relationship?
The reality of having some of these questions raised regardless of whether it was a romantic involvement or with one of my boys helped me reach an epiphany. Like anyone else, I cleaned out my phone book several times over the last year. I've had some of my boys really try to do me dirty and for some reason I let some of those rotten Motherfu ****s hang around for far too long. Romantically, it was more difficult because the heart was open more and I probably didn't want to act impulsively. However, a man's got to do what a man's go to do. My Biblical teachings say to turn the other cheek and to love my neighbor, but ummmmmm...sometimes I'm admittedly not that Christ like in my approach. And, I'm certainly not claiming to be an angel or the "bad guy" on occasion, either.
This is a very touchy subject with some and may even help others. The purpose of this blog is to really get into the minds of where people are today. Single, Married, Male, Female, Heterosexual or any category....it matters not!!! It transcends romance and friendship, moving into self-awareness and introspective acknowledgment. A serious look at oneself is great therapy. I once thought that me enhancing a woman that I was dating was only going to benefit the next man. Why not? Someone is doing that for me right now and they don't even know it. We all carry a lil bit from all of our past relationships. Why hate on the guy creating my perfect fit for a woman with his bullshit? He's only helping me out! Or why not help a brotha in need and bless him for once? Maybe he will return the favor and pay it forward to someone else when/if he makes a come-up.
Lastly, make sure that you love yourself enough to let someone else love you. You deserve the very best that God has to offer you...don't you?
Here's a question: The title of this blog came from a 70's PSA, but "Who is the most important person in your world?"
Who's up for the query?