Friday, May 4, 2007

Pot Luck Friday...Part VI



Dis shole duz look good!


This forum is a smash hit based on the great response from last week. I am excited to present once again POT LUCK FRIDAY..

What I would like to do is get some feed back from some non blogging readers or some bloggers that don't have the time to blog right. An open forum or a wish list if you will. For example, the "Stop Snitching" theory being taught to our kids or how current employers use sites like myspace as a screening tool to weed out potential employees.

There is no topic off limits! I know that relationship posts are common but be more specific. What element of the relationships? Finding one, keeping one, how to get out of one..all are up for discussion and friendly debate.

I am an information junkie! Garbage in--garbage out! But, I still like to process information. So, I'd like to try to start a day where the readers are in control of every single question, we take the comment that is posted right before you, answer their comment question, then post your own question for the next person. We can discuss it in a civil manner. If it goes well, then it could be really fun.

Have a fantastic weekend and let's come up with some great questions to kick around the campfire!

So without further delay.....who is up for the challenge, part 6?

94 comments:

CapCity said...

OOOh, I'm FIRST;-)! If U had ONE night to go out which would U pick: Poetry Reading/Open Mics? Live Concert? Theater/Play? Comedy Show? Dance Club? Bar/Lounge set? Quiet night at a bookstore/coffee shop?

I just came in from a comedy show in Harlem & Capone is off-da-meter hilarious!

Sheletha said...

One night to go out???
I would pick a Live Concert...3121 in Vegas...


Question: What is sexy?

dc_speaks said...

Dance club for sure...I need to shake a tail feather to show the youngins how it's really done.

Question: are you for or against the use of "ni99a"?

dc_speaks said...

hey sheletha, we posted at the same time.

sexy is the beholders perception of what they feel is physically and emotionally attractive.

LOL....ask Saadia that question..I know what she would say...hahahahaha

ms.b.havin said...

depends on my mood, as long as i can sit down, nothin worse than goin out in 3-4inch stelletos and havin to stand in silence(tryin to b cute) while your feet our screaming(lol)

ms.b.havin said...

sexy is mindful,although we see physical, it is transformed through ones self.. being smart is as sexy as a guy who just looks good cause sometimes they start talkin and your thinkin to yourself(shut the fugg up)oops did i say that..

dc_speaks said...

what up ms b. havin...welcome to the blog officially. instead of lurking in the shadows....hahahahah

now that you are here...make sure that you ledave a question for the next reader to address so that it remains a smooth transition...thanks for coming and stick around..

my question still: are you for or against the use of "ni99a"?

ms.b.havin said...
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ms.b.havin said...

TOUCH SUBJECT, AS LONG AS ITS JUS US USIN THE TERM BUT I CAN DO W/OUT IT. I NOTICE MEN USE IT MORE...BEIN ATTRACTIVE CAN IT GET U EVERYTHIN OR JUS IN TROUBLE...

dc_speaks said...

bein attractive can get you everything or nothing depending on the maturity of the other persons and the person who is attractive...good question..

question: what does it take for you fall in love?

hamil10 said...

Good Mornin' folks...

@Cap... I'd pick poetry reading/open mics

@Shel... sexy is a well-groomed chocolate man with a sense of humor and confidence without crossing the line into arrogance.

@DC... yes, see comment from the other day.

Question... How long did it take for curiosity to kill the cat?

Rich in the Stl said...

Open mics, because as much as I like it, I've never done it.

Sexy is a state of mine, it can be a lot of things

I get all the hoopla, but I still use nigga with close friends.

Being an attractive female can get you more and in trouble, but you are the gatekeeper so you still get to decide.

Curiosity killed the cat, the moment he tried to bust a nut.

My question:
Why do women agree to shit to get married then TRY and flip the script afterwards?

see ya'll later

Shai said...

@CAP: A poetry reading, I would even think of devirginizing(it that a word) myself of the mic. LOL.

@She-She: Sexy is a tall chocolate man, tight body, dressed in all black, and umm, let me stop before I implode. LOL.

@DC: I rarely use the word ni99a, banning it would not change the mindsets. Change mindsets and the use of the word will diminish, at least for the non-racists.

@Ms.B: Attraction can get you in trouble if it is not handled properly. Ill intentions on the attractee or attractors part can be real sticky, even dangerous.

@Hamil10, curiosity about what?


My question: Do you have a fantasy, you don't mind sharing with the group? *It doesn't have to be just sexual.

dc_speaks said...

@ Rich: thats a good question...I should let a woman answer it. so I will.

@Shai: if I had a fantasy that I could share, it would have to be non sexual. So here goes, most of my fantasies or day dreams would include me relaxing on an island with my significant other/wife sipping drinks from a large glass with a bamboo umrella, chilling in a hammock, at sunset with nothing but the sounds of nature and our conversation within earshot.

Question: why are teacher's becoming pedophiles in our society. Are kids that grown looking or do they have that much game?

Shai said...

@Myself: LOL. My fantasy is where I have a bomb azz with a home theatre, jacuzzi, swimming pool, sauna and so on. Me and my boo could walk around booty azz naked if we want and chill. LOL.

@Rich:I think that folks compromise to things to make things go smoothly hoping they get what they want when they marry. Then old habits fall into place and it looks the party reneged.

@DC: I think that folks are giving in to evil intentions easily. Also, remember back in the day folks married off their daughters younger than 18. Freedom of expression is really being used by folks. They are giving in to urges because they are too lazy to live real.

Keepin' It Real...Feathery said...

@Shai: My fantasy involves you, me, a fish, cat, and a dog. I'm on top.

My question - to Shai (and anyone who can answer):

What the f@ck is SMH?

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dc_speaks said...

huh? what the hell? omg...that is too damn funny...

welcome to the blog feathery: SMH= shaking my head

I didn't know what it meant either for a while.

question: If you have been sworn to secrecy about something that you knew would hurt someone else...would you snitch?

CapCity said...

@Sheletha - Sexy is Confidence & Cleanliness

@DC (re: N-word) - u seem to ask that alot lately...i only use it as a FIERCE cursing, now (up there w/ MFer!)

@DC (re:love) - when The Creator sends that message to my heart.

@hamil10 - curiousity ain't killed this CAP, yet;-).

@Rich - don't know...not married, yet - will tell ya when i am:-)

@Shai - fantasy: My Soulmate & me living "happily ever after":-)

@DC (teachers)- the world has many ails - that's just ONE of them, so i don't know...

@feathers:-) - SMH= shakin' my head (was new to me here, too:-)..but I prefer SMA;-)

For anyone who's not stepped upto a Mic & read their stuff - DO it! It's so much FUN! I will do more this summer.

New question - HOW are U bringing SEXY back (or do U keep it GOING:-)?
Me = getting healthier (it's so sexy to me)!

CapCity said...

DC - what's with u & secrets? as a teacher I was obligated to tell some that were harmful to the students...as a friend - it depends on how harmful i think the secret will be...

dc_speaks said...

cap: you are going to get cortney gee upset...he hates justin timberlake...hahahahaha

answer: i will keep myself in the sun and get even more chocolatey and hit the gym and treadmill more often to keep my sexy going.

regarding secrets, i like to ask questions that reveal mindsets rather than quick non thinking answers.

question: who else is going to see spiderman 3 this weekend?

Shai said...

Keepin It Real, you are a trip. LOL.
Freak nasty you are. SMH.

Opps, I forgot my question last post.

They sasy there is someone for everyone. Yet, we know women outnumber men in general. And of course not everyone will ever get married. My question is:

If you have faith you will get married, yet you could be destined to be single, when so you stop having faith?

Sheletha said...

you should never lose faith...just keep your focus on God and the purpose he has for you.



Why is it with a man that is Sexy 40+ man is considered a menace to society and a 40+ sexy woman is considered crazy, or something is wrong with her?

Shai said...

@Sheletha: I should have said when do let go of the hope of getting married when it appears that may not be part of your path in life.

The Bible says be fruitful and multiply. They say kids are a gift from God. Is it selfish if you don't want to have kids?

Sheletha said...

I dont think its selfish not to have children when you know you don't want to take care of them. There are other reasons why women don't want children, if they don't want children for selfish reasons then, yes it is selfish.

Shai said...

What reasons are selfish for not wanting to have kids?

Keepin' It Real...Feathery said...

Shai, you obviously have a problem with kids. Does that mean you won't be laying any eggs for me?

Rich in the Stl said...

Being fruitful and multiplying takes on more forms than sexual reproduction.

If that's all there was to the scripture, we should all keep banging and spitting out kids. Now what kind of sense does that make.

Most decisions are selfish, even if you are helping someone else and you do it because the decision makes YOU feel good.

I'm trying to keep my sexy working by staying in shape, but as the song says, Love is a battlefield. It's not always easy to get up and do what I need to.


Question:
What is the one thing thats holding you back?

Sheletha said...

If you honestly don't want to bring a child into the world because you don't want to take care of them, that isn't selfish..to me thats actually protecting the unborn. Along with this ideology you must be taking the nessasary precautions NOT to have a child. Through abstinance or proper contraceptive.

If through all of this extra precaution and God being the God that he is, still allows this miracle to happen, because everything but abstinence is not 100%...then its time to get to raisin'

Shai said...

@Feathers: I have one child who is almost 17. My desire to have kids has diminished. I want ME time. Plus kids are a lot of work I don't want to do anymore.

In your relationship, what are your non-negotiables?

Keepin' It Real...Feathery said...

I forgot to leave a question:

When children leave the nest do you feel liberated or lonely?

Shai said...

@Feathers: I have not experience a real empty nest. I will say when my daughter was gone for part of the summer, I was liberated. I realized how it was to be single and free for a while. I did miss my baby and when she first left I cried.

I am personally waiting for my freedom to do other things when she leaves the nest.


Being an independent, single woman a bad thing for men?

CapCity said...

thanx Rich for answering my question. I'll ask it again: What are u doing to bring Sexy back (or keep it going)?

Shai - most of your questions I leave in God's hands. I'll never let go of my faith - even if it wavers.

Feathers - don't know, no kids, yet:-)

Rich - I'm not sure what's holding me back, yet. I think it may be impatience because that's what seems to be being tested the most:-). Also, my ability to LOOK Money IN the FACE:-)...working on both of those & will let u know.

My question (again:-) = How r u bringing Sexy Back (or keeping it going)?

Shai said...

@Cap: Sometimes we put faith in the wrong things. I have faith my life will be taken care of, regardless if I get married or not.

I am brining sexy back by getting my fashions on. I LOVE Spring and Summer. I have so many nice outfits and shoes. I will be having my cute on. LOL. I will walk for exercise, I would be fooling myself and lying if I said I was going to work out and make major changes.

Shai said...

What parts of your body do you find sexy?

Shai said...

@Rich: I am glad you picked up on being fruitful is not just about having kids. I have heard folks use the scripture as way to say folks MUST have kids.

What is holding me back is fear of failure in certain areas and fear of maintaining what I really want.

We are so often defined by our roles. For example, If a woman is not domestic than she is considered lazy and not a real woman. If a What does it mean to be a man/woman?

Lo said...

CapCity: I'm bringing sexy back by being more open to the world in general and what it has to offer.

Question: Is a friend really a friend if they watch you go into what they believe is danger without saying a word, even if what they feel isn't based on anything more than instinct?

Rich in the Stl said...

@Lo - depends on the type of trouble you are talking about.

@shai - all of a woman is sexy. It could be eyes, a smile, the way her ears look with earings, a toe ring on freshly painted toes, her neckline in a nice dress - don't get me started, I could go all day on that one.

@shai - being an independant woman is only bad if you don't leave any room for a man to find his place in your life. That is, if you are looking for a man to invade your space.

@DC - Your question is close to Lo's. It really varies on how it should be approached and it depends on who is involved.

Question: why does looking to do right have to be labeled "snitching"?

Shai said...

@Rich: My question was what parts of YOUR body do you find sexy?

Keepin' It Real...Feathery said...

@Shai: I have a really sexy beak, especially first thing in the morning and very late at night.

@Lo: I would def tell my friend. If they got mad at me for expressing my concern I would have to live with that and hope they knew my heart was in the right place, which is next to my gizzard.

@Rich: I'm new here so I don't know you, but in my opinion trouble is trouble. You can't qualify it. Either you'd speak up or you wouldn't. No hard feelings but you might not make my friends list with that approach. I probably wouldn't make yours either. I'm a bird. I am checking for Shai, tho.

@DC: I can keep secrets especially to protect my own.

@Rich: There's no snitching where I come from. My kind can't talk. There were some chatty myna birds a while back, but they stole one too many worms that didn't belong to them and those suckers went DOWN.

Keepin' It Real...Feathery said...

I forgot to leave a question.

Would you build a nest or buy a house with someone if you weren't married to them?

:::looking at Shai:::

Rich in the Stl said...

@shai - I like my arms and legs, I wish my stomach was flatter, then I would like that too.

@feathery - I feel you on the telling the friend. I always tend to take the road less traveled with friends and sometimes live to regret it. I'm tired of being on the losing end, but ultimately my concious wouldn't let me NOT tell, so I guess that response was just some B.S. I was putting forth in an effort to make me feel better. See, I can't even lie amongst strangers.

Rich in the Stl said...

@feathery - With someone i didn't know, I might build a nest, but buying a house is a different matter altogether. I shacked for a minute back in the day and boy was I glad that there were no joint assets.

@shai - what does it mean to be a man. I don't know the technical answer, but I strive to be a better man with each and every decision I make. For the most part, I could sum it up by saying that being a man to me is owning your actions, whether they be good or bad. Living to do more good than evil, and trying to leave something to make life easier for those behind you.

Rich in the Stl said...

Oh, I forgot my question:

Can good sex be taught. Or is it an either you have it or you don't type of thing.

CortneyGee said...

good sex is innate .. it's about the passion you have in your soul... good technique is learned ...
my question is if you had to make a decision to pay one of three bills which would it be ..
the phone bill the light bill or the gas bill ...

Shai said...

I love my smile, hands, chest, legs, and feet.

@Feathery: Keep picking wit me. LOL. SMH. I am not into shacking or nesting.


If you could be the opposite for 48 hours, what would your name be and what would you do?

Shai said...

@Rich: Sex is natural, technique is learned.

@CortG: I would pay the light bill first.

CortneyGee said...

Pay the phone bill .. cause if your gas is off you can call someone and borrow loot and get them turned back on lights are next cause if gas is off and phone is off you can write someone a letter in the cold

Shai said...

@CG: I have lived without gas and a phone for years when I was a kid. Lights on mean electricity and you can use space heaters and hot plate/toaster oven. Plus the food stays cold.

Rich in the Stl said...

I would pay the light bill and the gas. Winter is gone, so no need for the gas, unless your stove is gas and water heater is gas. The phone would have to go for a minute UNLESS you need it to make more money.

So to answer your question: I'd talk to the companies and see how much time I could buy myself by making a partial payment and at best try to pay the two I needed most.

Lo said...

LOL! Feathery and CortGizzle, you two are hilarious!

@Shai: I like my face and the shape of my head. It works with any hairstyle I choose to rock. I also like my eyes, lips, nose, breasts, size 6-1/2 sometimes 7 feet (which means the sexy shoes are always available in my size!!!), and my height (5'7").

@Feathery: I wouldn't buy a house with anyone but my husband. If a man can commit to a major home purchase, then he should be able to commit to me.

@Cort: The light bill. Most new phones don't just plug into the phone outlet, they plug into a power outlet, too, so when the lights go out, so does the phone.

My question: What do you consider the point of no return, meaning when something is beyond repair---in a relationship, friendship, work situation, whatever?

Shai said...

@Lo: I love your cut. My head is shaped to funny for the cut.

The point of no return is when there is way more pain than pleasure and improvements don't work.

My question again: If you could be the opposite for 48 hours, what would your name be and what would you do?

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Lo said...

Thanks, Shai. Guess I got lucky in the head department, even though it does technically qualify as a peanut head.

If I could be the opposite for 48 hours, my name would be The Skantastic Whore and I would experience what it's like to be CortGizzle...as a girl.

Question: Pedicure or bikini wax...you've only got enough cash for one, although professional assistance is desperately needed in both instances. (This is for the ladies.

For the men, choose between a haircut or a shave, and you've only got enough loot for one, but both are in a crucial state (and require professional help, not self-service).

CapCity said...

gettin' warmed up in heah!

so many questions:

@Shai - my eyes & brain are my sexiest feature to me; Brothers give me most attention for my "girl back there";-)

@feathers - no shacking for me

@rich - i like cortGee's response - and add that the best sex for me has been when my man & i learn each other emotionally & physically...& DANGiT that takes a LONG DAYUM time to develop!!

@Cort - i only pay 'lectric anyway, so no worries for me:-)

@Lo - point of no return in all relationships - when it becomes detrimental to my well being (left a job that was making me SICK and step away from toxic relationships).

My question - how many real FRIENDS in your life & how long have u known them?

Shai said...

@LO: I NEVER had a professional pedicure and I ain't waxing my bikini area. LOL. So I would get my toes done. LOL. Folks will be seeing my feet more.

Shai said...

I have 3 real friends, 7, and 13 years for two of them. One is a female.


What is your fav food, drink, dessert and sexual position?

CapCity said...

Shai, if I could be ANY opposite to me? I'd be a TALL, chocolate, intellectual BROTHER, named Jaime (Hispanic whispers in my ear;-) who would make love to ME:-). LOL!

Lo - definitely the pedicure (don't like women that close to me down there...haven't worked up the nerve for that, yet:-)

CapCity said...

Shai - too many of all those to answer here;-).

no new questions until my other gets answered: how many REAL friends & how long in your life?

dc_speaks said...

yayyyyyyyyyy...spiderman 3 was da bomb!!

ok let me play catch up

dc_speaks said...

ok last question i see is cap:

I have several long term friends that go back many many years..like 18+ that are battle tested.

Gizzle being one of them.

my question: should i pay a professional to cut my grass or have my 15 yr old son do it grudingly and end up pissing me off more?

Rich in the Stl said...

Shai - did you mean opposite sex or opposite of who you are. I can't picture myself being a chick. If we are talking opposite of who I am now. I've lived there and don't want to go back.

Lo- definitely a haircut

Real Friends - 3 male, 2 female - range from 10 - 20 years.

Question: What do you find least attractive about the opposite sex?

dc_speaks said...

least attractive on a female is teeth issues.

my question is already up there

Sheletha said...

hey yall im back....


didja miss me...


laughing at peanut head...wait a minute my my mommah call me a peanut head!!!

dc_speaks said...

boy o boy o boy....it always seems to get kinda steamy in here on fridays...

question: is it some unwritten law that states---you must have sex on/for your birthday?

Sheletha said...

if so ive missed out terribly...


men-- do you like the long or short hair on women?

women - do you like bald/fade/or dreads on a man?

Girly_Girl said...

Wait a minute...wait a minute.

First of all, sorry I'm so late today, but what the hell does "ask Saadia that question...I know what she would say" mean, DC???

Are you saying that I think I'm sexy?

ms.b.havin said...

Lo girl wax and put some socks on haha...

Dave said...

This idea is awesome! I've never seen anyone do this before... you know, come to think of it, best be careful what you wish for, I see you have 65 comments already! ^^ Thats a whole lot of chat!

I'm going to reference last/ most recent question, cause there so many...

men-- do you like the long or short hair on women?
To me, it really depends on the shape of the face. Some goes best with certain type of length.

Oh and DC, when you were at my blog what you meant to say was go Pistons, go Spartans! Right? Har. :)

Ok, heres my question: What do you value more in a partner? Sense of humor, or intelligence?

Sheletha said...

I like dave....

Pistons baby....

Sheletha said...

Lo: I would choose a pedicure...I get lightheaded when I bend over for too long...


Question: Should I be offened when a dude comments to me that he likes to take me out cause I eat all my food? Ive been perplexed over that for a minute now.

dc_speaks said...

no u shouldn't be offended...

question: If banging dudes/chicks was a crime, should it be held against us forever?

dc_speaks said...

GO BUCKS AND GO CAVS!!

Shai said...

@Dave: Anotha MI fan. LOL. I am from Detroit. Let DC have it. LOL.

dc_speaks said...

welcome to the blog dave...

Sheletha said...

yall slow today

Go Pistons!!!

CapCity said...

Rich - hmm, i find least attractive about opposite sex - they won't ACK right! lol!

Dave - I MUST have intelligent sense of humor;-)

Sheletha it's what's UNDER his hair that interests me most I love ALL types o' hair (or not) on a man - whew!

my question - bad skin or bad teeth which is worse?

dc_speaks said...

bad skin is worse than bad teeth all day long.

dc_speaks said...

what's better being liked or being honest?

KIKI said...

Honesty...always!

Have you missed me?lol

dc_speaks said...

question: do you get more info from a two faced person or do you cut them the off immediately?

dc_speaks said...

of course u were missed ki ki...you know you my ni99a fo sho

CapCity said...

honest - i gotta live w/ me = could care less who likes me (specially since i'm irresistable:-)

HEY Kiki - where U been? it's been that good? lol!

gen'l "audience" question - will dc get it up as high as he did last week? LOL!

dc_speaks said...

uhhhhh..no no way.

question: how do you politely tell a mf'er to stay the f*ck out of your business?

Dave said...

DC,
Thanks!

Shai & Sheletha,
You know that's right.

what's better being liked or being honest?

Honesty, without a doubt. What good is being liked if it's under false pretense?

question: do you get more info from a two faced person or do you cut them the off immediately?

I'll let it go for a bit. It's more just reward to let them dig their hole deeper, cutting them off is showing them mercy, which they opted out of the minute they decided to lie.

gen'l "audience" question - will dc get it up as high as he did last week? LOL!

How high did it go last week? I suppose I should just go look, seeings how my fingers work, and all that jazz ^^

dc_speaks said...

lol..thanks dave....GO CAVS/ GO BUCKEYES!!

Girly_Girl said...

You know what my fucking question is? Why does EVERYONE ignore me on this blog???

CapCity said...

dc - my eyes speak for me when i don't feel like it;-)

dc_speaks said...

you are never ignored saadia...you is my MF!!!

nic said...

@ Capacity, “How many friends do you have?” I count 4. Everyone else is an associate

@ Dave, “What do you value more in a partner? Sense of humor, or intelligence?” When I was younger, I was a sucker for a man who could make me laugh. Now I’m lookin’ for a geek  Also go Eagles!!
@ DC, “what's better being liked or being honest?” Being honest. It’s hard to keep up with a lie.
@ Girly girl. “Why does EVERYONE ignore me on this blog???” I don’t know this is my first time here. I hope I don’t get ignored also.
My question is - Am I the only one who consistently hangs up on people, only to claim I had “bad reception” later on? DC, I guess this counts as being dishonest, but some people won’t let you get a word in edgewise. I lack patience sometime  Anyway…GREAT post, and I’m really glad I came through.
Peace

dc_speaks said...

hahahahahaha

@nic: no you are not the only one. though to be honest in my house, I have poor signal reception for real so when it happens, i can play it off. but thats hasnt happened too recently.

excellent question that has me in stitches.

CapCity said...

Hi Nic - in response to your question - i no longer talk to people i feel the need to do that with - OR - I just say I gotta go and end the call. Too tired for games anymore.

also, there's only one A in my name;-)...i hail from the nation's CAPitol CITY, originally.

nic said...

Hey Capcity. My bad about the typo. Thanks for the response though.

Khoney330 said...

A friend and I saw Spidey3 this weekend. We enjoyed it!

dc_speaks said...

I saw it on friday....i went solo...it was great