Monday, March 19, 2007

Time will reveal...this ain't just Debarge!

Over the years, I have heard of some great debates taking place over a
very simple topic. What topic are you talking about, D.C.? Well...I'm
so glad you asked. Very simply put...time! Everyone measures time in
their own way. To each person, their time has either little, no or
great value to them, though amazingly, the time of others may deviate
depending on the other individual.

In a recent conversation with a friend of mine, I was reminded of a saying that I had heard on numerous occasions in my younger years"Don't let a lack of planning on
your part constitute a sense of urgency on mine". It really wasn't until this morning that I really felt the value of that statement. That statement came in a conversation referencing how other people view your time, comparing how "YOU" view your time.

It really is funny how hearing things at a different point in your life causes a totally different perspective on the same verbiage!

Anyway,we have all heard the terms that reference time at some point in our lives so I will only deal with a few of them and we can kick them around the campfire.

1. Time heals all wounds

2. Time is money

3. Time to get right with God

4. Time to take this relationship to the next level

5. Colored People's time

6. All good things come to those that wait(ref. time)

7. It's time to move on(ref. past relationship or mourning a loved one)

8. Time to get back out on the dating horse

There are certainly more that can be thrown up for discussion but we have enough to deal with in just those 8 listed.

I have a background entrenched with a network marketing philosophy of never trading time for money in a linear sense. Always find a way to receive residual income when any opportunity presents itself. Residual income merely means to do something one (time) and get paid for it over and over again. I hope Ididn't insult any one's intelligence, but it is not a common term used in society. We are all more accustomed to residual the bills that come every month after we make the one call for installation, like the heat, gas, or light bills...LOL!

I actually wanted to let the first of the eight ride it out, but I guess I can't do that. There are some of us that just don't care about different facets of life and impose our way of thinking on everyone else. Since this is a touchy subject, even for me, we can keep it on a lighter note. I guess the person that actually started that saying was probably attempting to console someone or give them a feeling that
there will be light at the end of the tunnel.

What has happened possibly since its intended meaning is a warped display of a
judgemental demeanor in which the speaker now places their perception of time on the recipient. I have heard on more than a few times that a person should"be over that by now" referencing a death or a break up. Some of the most heart wrenching times of my life are still difficult to deal with, yet I have had someone tell me.."You should be over that by now". I'm sure everyone can relate to that dumb a$$ line in some way
or another.

Here's another one that tends to be so liberally used that the insult has been lost in humor. Colored people's time..definition-black people are late! What the hell? Come on ya'll is this really a joke. Is it really funny to be associated with yet another negative connotation? I don't advocate any kind of ethnic banterings, so I do find it to be ignorant! Where's the difference if we say all women are late?

To but a debatable topic on the forefront for Monday isn't my goal, but over the last 10 hours, I have come to the conclusion that using time as a means to control the actions of others is a ploy used by men and women so matter of factly that it bears being put on front street. Some of you may agree, others may not...but in my opinion, we are all guilty of manipulation and falling prey to it every day of our lives.

I know that everything happens in God's time and that things happen according to His permissive will or His Divine will. Let's leave it up to Him and He will direct our paths.

Happy writing and have a great week!


CapCity said...

Wow! DC, this was "write" ON Time;-). LOL! But seriously, this is a great discussion you've addressed and one that certainly hits home with me. Since I left the regiment of a school day/calendar year and now work at home - whew! I don't know where time goes - but it moves at a quicker clip than when the students & I used to watch the clock:-).

Shai said...

Good points DC. I can say I have been guily of inflicting time on others and vice versa.

JustMeWriting said..., this topics can be tackled from so many angles...but one thing came to mind as I read through; the book of Ecclesiastes 3:1 begins by stating: To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven:
it then goes on to list various things and situations in time. (A time to be born and a time to die)Although the premise of that particular scripture might not directly relate to yourtopic of people's misuse and abuse of their time and others. I do think that biblical reference applies with regard to the mental and emotional growth of we mere mortals. That misuse and abuse of others time...the disregard and lack of consideration can be due to our 'time' of growth...has that person reached their Time of maturity.

Rich in the Stl said...

I didn't have time to read that whole diatribe my brother. Wheww!! that was long. Good post though.

Mizrepresent said...

"Only time will tell..."

"Time waits for no one.."

"A matter of time..."

"A time to kill...and a time to heal."

so much on time...

dr. Girlfriend said...

Splendid post. What have I learned about time: I have learned so much about individuals over time; I have learned that to really know someone it takes time; I have learned that there is a time and a place for everything; most of all after traveling abroad, I learned that there are places in the world where persons do not use watches, there are no clocks on the wall, no one gives a SECOND thought, to a MINUTE ever-The experience was so surreal yet refreshing at the same time-to appreciate the present time and thank God for it.

IYMS said...

I think "timing is everything". When you meet; job placement; conception; airline arrivals; the elevator and etc. I was taught one thing from an alcoholic 5th grade science teacher (with short-lived tenure), Mr. Tomsic that "time is the one thing that we can not get back".

I'll take this time to say, "DC I think you are great!". Thanks for taking time out to share. Love you!

Girly_Girl said...

"Money won't change you, but time will TAKE YOU ON!"

Lance said...

i'on kno' how old you is bruh? but when you turn 40, you gon' see TIME in a WHOLE DIFFERENT LIGHT. me on that.

KIKI said...

Time...just dont waste mine!

CortneyGee said...

DC i have to say bruh you know Im the king of scanning over people's thoughts cause I can only hear my own music but you are right Time waits for no one and Lance is even more right when he says as you get closer to 40 you will start really considering you mortality... well done friend

dc_speaks said...

thanks family for the insight! I appreciate it!

gave me something to think about as well