Monday, April 9, 2007

Love at first "BYTE".

In a recent conversation with a pal of mine, I had a moment to ponder just how common the whole online dating trend was sweeping the nation. I certainly couldn't knock the idea. I met some very cool people off the net that I hold in high esteem. With the sites that specifically zero in on dating, requiring credit card numbers and automatic billing cycles, was it really that popular? The answer was a resounding yes. They hit my credit card one time because I forget to unsubscribe. LOL!!

More than half of the people that I come in contact with have thought of, tried or is currently subscribed to a service. Keep in mind that the online dating world does not operate in real time speed. The online world of dating can have complete strangers professing love in days or weeks. Remarkably, dwarfing the time it normally takes to even go out on 2 or 3 dates utilizing the traditional dating methods. Proving just how important it is to communicate so much without the interfernce of physical temptations.

Monday's topic of the day, since we like to do relationships so often here.

Do you believe that online dating would be healthy or harmful in weeding out a romantic interest? Or, is online dating a means to get to the good part without having to wati too long to get there?

How willing are you to be bitten by the online love bug? Who is up for this challenge?

17 comments:

Shai said...

I am not one for online dating. I have not tried the dating online services offered. I have met a few men online through my blog and online chatting. I have never met any of th guys I met online in person.

It is crazier and scarier to me. A lot of folks lie in person and online they REALLY lie.

Anything is possible, I just won't bank my possibilities in the cyberworld. LOL.

JustMeWriting said...

I think it's harmful and because of the 'time' issue, it takes some serious time to get to know a person...and with so many distractions one can hardly concentrate. And like Shai said...people lie in person...they REALLY lie online and I know because I've sampled it...um, um, um! see what watching Girlfriends will do for you...lol.

Sheletha said...

yeah I tried it, called people out on their lies and left them alone.

Khoney330 said...

I think you can meet good people online and in person. If someone is going to lie they'll do it on the phone, to your face, wherever, whenever. Liars are liars. Some lie so well, they begin to believe their own lies. Whoo gotta really watch out for those.

KIKI said...

Tried it twice...one guy was real cool, the other a real nut. It is a little scarier than the old traditional ways of dating but the key is not to rely on the information divuldged online, but set up a face to face meeting as soon as possible (in a public place of course); it's much easier to tell when someones full of shit in person than over the net.

Khoney330 said...

I agree with you there Kiki, they will try to keep the lie going if you can't see it with your own eyes.

Shai said...

Khoney, that is so true, liars are liars regardless of where you meet them. The Net has offered me some online buddies I have and have not met.

Dating wise I will leave up to face to face relations.

dc_speaks said...

i leave to go to a meeting and come back to all sorts of comments.

Since I have tried it and saw some better than average results, I'm not speaking against it. I have seen people meet not just on the dating sites but uncommon things like yahoo spades and end up happily married with kids.

That's just my opinion.

Khoney said it very well..a liar will find a way to lie regardless of how you meet them.

CapCity said...

yea, i tried it, too - found it not much different than in person introductions = brother may look better in dim light than when u meet him in the sun kinda thang:-)
met some nice, corny guys, and some straight clowns (figured I'd get the most for my li'l month long trial date LOL! :-) For me - just more writing material.
... just because my results weren't great doesn't mean i knock it. i have a friend who's marrying a brother she met on BlackPlanet & i'm excited for her.

I wish ANY & Everyone the best as they search for their desired mates/play things or whatever you desire!

Man With Balls said...

I think it could work out better for guys who are looking for something genuine, because most of the woman are probably forthright and looking for the same. That's probably why DC's results were pretty good. Based on the types of conversations he holds here, he seems like a good guy, so if he presents the same picture online, his results should be pretty favorable.

A good majority of dudes that hit those sites are just looking for some new coochie, so by all means ladies, keep your eyes on your luggage.

dc_speaks said...

MWB: thanks for the compliment, brah. I am indeed the same online as I am in person.

Yeah it was fun.

Lo said...

I say find your love how you can. The internet has made the world a much smaller, more accessible community. I've made some wonderful friends via cyberspace, people who have become genuine long-term friends, practically family. If that can happen with friendship, I imagine it can happen with love...if both parties keep it real.

Anonymous said...

This blog hit HOME. I've met a few people on line and have discovered they dont even look like their pics. Pics from 3 to 4 years ago. LOL. Great jobs that obviously dont excists. Even lied about having a fu***** car. Knowing DAMN WELL thats a LIE!! Getting caught in their lies. Before u put yourself out there consider the possibility that it may not lead to a damn thing. I swear i'll never do it again. Of course those are the chances you have to take, with online dating. Lots of luck to your friend CAP.

CortneyGee said...

I can't lie I like dating via internet .. saves loot and if I don't like whom Im chatting with I can turn my computer off and blockj them from contacting me...

CortneyGee said...

I have more fairy tales and my horror stories both from online and in real front line of dating ... people are only honest when they have to be ...

dr. Girlfriend said...

Great blog and great title. From personal experience and via friends and many colleagues, I and others have had a positive and great cyberspace experience. To address the questions in the post:

Is online dating healthy or harmful in weeding out a romantic interest?-I think I agree with Lo-online dating has made the world of single individuals much more accessible. It is a viable vehicle for meeting people.

How willing am I to be bitten by the online love bug? Well, I am not one to kiss and tell.

Lola Gets said...

Ive had both positive and negative experiences with dating online. Usually, I met folks through chat rooms, which was cool for me cause I got to see something of themselves first (real or no). Right now Im with eHarmony, and I am not pleased with my experience. I gotta remember to tell them to NOT resign me again, lol.
L