Remote Control Relationship..part 1(a)---repost

Hey, fam. Part one of this series focuses on the factors that allow for men and women to exert their will over their mate. It will discuss a few of the methods used by some to keep people "in line" even when they aren't in their presence.

We can highlight the obvious on both sides of the fence and then delve a little more into the not so obvious.

Some of the best ways to exert control is by focusing on two powerful emotions: Love and Fear.

If I use the example that is heavily quoted in today's society "Would you rather be loved or feared"...A Bronx Tale, the significance of that line is shocking to the core and that is a prime example of how remote control is exerted.

1. Fear of loss: people will do strange/accept things when they fear being alone

2. Loves Looks: people will compromise themselves over and over again if they feel that their mate is too attractive to let them go.

3. Fear of physical: people will certainly cut short everyday living situations for fear of a physical confrontation

4. Love the attention: people will be so accustomed to getting the attention that they don't want to be ignored.

There are so many examples and I just used these 4 because they are easy to use. All of these feelings can cause a person to be "controlled" by their significant other even if time elapses or a person even moves out of town. The feelings of guilt/shame or just starting the dating game over again makes some people feel trapped and they can't get out...thus they are now being "remotely controlled."

The purpose of these posts are to recognize the patterns and give ourselves a fighting chance at falling back in love with ourselves. Not being defined by what another individual's influence over us projects, but by knowing and loving whom we are.

This is part 1(A) of a series on the remote control relationship bandit patterns. Stay tuned for regular updates.

It is extremely important that we not only change the channel of behavior, but that we also grab the remote and shatter it into millions of pieces...before we simply fade to black...

Anyone care to shed some additional light? The floor is yours.

I just thought it would be wise to repost the first installment before I did the second one. I hope that someone in the blogosphere can be helped from reading this and other relationship focused blogs around the world.

P.S....Second installment to follow on Thursday 8-9-07.