Pot Luck Friday...Part XX

Dis shole duz look good!

This forum is officially a smash hit. I am excited to present once again POT LUCK FRIDAY.

What I would like to do is get some feed back from some non blogging readers or some bloggers that don't have the time to blog right now. An open forum, if you will. For example, the BET Awards, folks killing their family or how Eddie Murphy indeed was that baby pappy(lol..I loved the movie "life").

There is no topic off limits! I know that relationship posts are common but be more specific. What element of the relationships? Finding one, keeping one, how to get out of one..all are up for discussion and friendly debate.

I am an information junkie! Garbage in--garbage out! But, I still like to process information. So, I'd like to try to start a day where the readers are in control of every single question, we take the comment that is posted right before you, answer their comment question, then post your own question for the next person. We can discuss it in a civil manner. If it goes well, then it could be really fun. I must exercise more moderation on the personal topics comments. I got a few emails from some participants and I must agree that some of the comments were hurtful and should be handled off line...privately. Let's have fun and keep it clean...please---thank you.

Have a fantastic weekend and let's come up with some great questions to kick around the campfire!

So without further delay.....who is up for the challenge, part 20?

Sometimes ya gotta say...WTF!!!

Keeping in line with the "theme days" so that I don't drain all of my reserve tank dry from working on book projects, recruiting, and blogging, there shall be another instituted theme day. Today and henceforth Wednesdays shall be named...WTF WEDNESDAY!!!!!

There is no set subject. Anything that is on your mind. It is an open forum where the first lines of each comment start with WTF...now that could mean what the frick, where the frick, why the frick, who the frick, etc., but each comment should start with WTF.


Here's a prime example of a WTF moment in THIS YAHOO STORY about passing a law to fine for wearing sagging pants...I LOVE IT! WTF(what) took so long?!

Have fun and keep it as clean as possible, fam.

Have a fantastic day!

DC..Movie Critic?---Repost

I'm about to chase after my new dream. Movie critic extraordinaire! Unfortunately I won't be paid for it---I'll be coming out of my pocket instead.

Very rarely do I get an opportunity to catch a brand new flick when it comes out. I used to have all the privileges of getting to pre screenings because one of my best friends is the Promotions/Marketing Director for the top urban radio station in Cleveland. She moved and all my perks went right along with her.

Since I am out of the loop on current movies, can ya'll please tell me the titles of the last movies you have seen so I can go start my career as a movie critic?

Anyone care to share?

Monday Musings...Part VI

I was reflecting on my relationship with God over the past few weeks and today I happened across an incredible display of pics taken by the Hubble Space telescope. I was amazed at these sights and I struggle with the ability to listen to science's explanation of what they are.

I'd like to invite you into my circle and let you see what you see!

Can you see the image of a person praying in robed garment perhaps in the grip of the devil?

How many angelic beings can you count going to and fro around the face in the center of the light?

Can you see a face with an aura ?

Can you see a blood stained cross with the Light of the world perfectly centered?

Someone taking a stroll through the universe?

Who's watching us?

Who's up for Monday Musings query?


Here is the Astronomer research link where I stumbled across it?

a quick laugh!!

My good friend and most excellent lurker, Kim sent me an email entitled "Who says religion can't be funny"....personally I believe in relationship and not religion, but hey...it was still funny either way.

I do my usual and open it...I spit coffee on my screen so let me share with you what was shared with me.

I'll just use a few of them. Thanks Kim!!!

Enjoy!!!

Sometimes ya gotta say...WTF!!!!!

Keeping in line with the "theme days" so that I don't drain all of my reserve tank dry from working on book projects, recruiting, and blogging, there shall be another instituted theme day. Today and henceforth Wednesdays shall be named...WTF WEDNESDAY!!!!!

There is no set subject. Anything that is on your mind. It is an open forum where the first lines of each comment start with WTF...now that could mean what the frick, where the frick, why the frick, who the frick, etc., but each comment should start with WTF.


Here's a prime example of a WTF moment in THIS AOL STORY about public displays of affection being a crime in other parts of the world...ummm like Beijing. WTF(what)...I'd be in huge trouble from back in da day?!

Have fun and keep it as clean as possible, fam.

Have a fantastic day!

Pot Luck Friday...part XIX

Dis shole duz look good!

This forum is officially a smash hit. I am excited to present once again POT LUCK FRIDAY.

What I would like to do is get some feed back from some non blogging readers or some bloggers that don't have the time to blog right now. An open forum, if you will. For example, the BET Awards, folks killing their family or how Eddie Murphy indeed was that baby pappy(lol..I loved the movie "life").

There is no topic off limits! I know that relationship posts are common but be more specific. What element of the relationships? Finding one, keeping one, how to get out of one..all are up for discussion and friendly debate.

I am an information junkie! Garbage in--garbage out! But, I still like to process information. So, I'd like to try to start a day where the readers are in control of every single question, we take the comment that is posted right before you, answer their comment question, then post your own question for the next person. We can discuss it in a civil manner. If it goes well, then it could be really fun. I must exercise more moderation on the personal topics comments. I got a few emails from some participants and I must agree that some of the comments were hurtful and should be handled off line...privately. Let's have fun and keep it clean...please---thank you.

Have a fantastic weekend and let's come up with some great questions to kick around the campfire!

So without further delay.....who is up for the challenge, part 19?

Remote Control Relationships...part 2

Hey, fam. Part two of this series focuses on the factors that allow for men and women to exert their will over their mate in a way that would normally seem gentle, kind and sweet. It will discuss a few of the methods used by some to keep their unknowing victim "in line" even when they aren't in their presence.

We can highlight the obvious on both sides of the fence and then delve a little more into the not so obvious.

One of the smoothest ways to exert control is by using "passive aggressive" behavior patterns. It is very possible to overlook this type of control because it comes across in such a discreet fashion.

Maybe I'm right or maybe I'm not. If I can shed light for someone still stuck, then I feel better.

The way that I have used it in the past and also witnessed it was even in asking the question.."Can I ask you a question?", another is when I intentionally projected my thinking to lead the conversation. Speaking loud and drawing attention is a common tactic. Additionally, when I wanted someone to do something, I would assume that they would do it, and in a hurry at that. Just because that's how I am. When I used to make cd's, I wanted to solicit opinions from my friends by giving them a sample...I almost never bothered to ask if they would do it or even if they had time. I went on with my merry music making self and kept it movin.

At the surface, it seems like rudeness. But, on a deeper level, it only feeds into a self serving attitude.

Once in a while, I come in contact with a true Misarcissist. Those individuals will start off making suggestions in such a fashion that it really doesn't seem like a demand...but it certainly is. The innuendos are so subtle and woven into general conversation that when directives are given(followed with a form of ultimatum...of course) the recipient never even knew what hit them. The politely delivered demands are highly effective in most relationships, because of the self esteem...or lack thereof on either side.


There are so many examples and I just used a few. Even when someone is aware of being"controlled" by their significant other, it's hard to see it for what it is and we tend to make excuses to cover up. Mastering the art that I like to call" flipping the script" is an under-rated form of hypnotism. Used efficiently, time elapses or moving out of town still make for interesting situations. The feelings of guilt/shame that can be asserted by the self absorbed person on the victim are real...thus they are being "remotely controlled."

The purpose of these posts are to recognize the patterns and give ourselves a fighting chance at falling back in love with ourselves. Not being defined by what another individual's influence over us projects, but by knowing and loving whom we are.

This is part 2 of a series on the remote control Relationship Felon patterns. Stay tuned for regular updates.

It is extremely important that we not only change the channel of behavior, but that we also grab the remote and shatter it into millions of pieces...before we simply fade to black...

Anyone care to shed some additional light? The floor is yours.

Sometimes ya gotta say...WTF!!!

Keeping in line with the "theme days" so that I don't drain all of my reserve tank dry from working on book projects, recruiting, and blogging, there shall be another instituted theme day. Today and henceforth Wednesdays shall be named...WTF WEDNESDAY!!!!!

There is no set subject. Anything that is on your mind. It is an open forum where the first lines of each comment start with WTF...now that could mean what the frick, where the frick, why the frick, who the frick, etc., but each comment should start with WTF.


Here's a prime example of a WTF moment in THIS AOL STORY about public displays of affection being a crime in other parts of the world...ummm like Beijing. WTF(what)...I'd be in huge trouble from back in da day?!

Have fun and keep it as clean as possible, fam.

Have a fantastic day!

Remote Control Relationship..part 1(a)---repost

Hey, fam. Part one of this series focuses on the factors that allow for men and women to exert their will over their mate. It will discuss a few of the methods used by some to keep people "in line" even when they aren't in their presence.

We can highlight the obvious on both sides of the fence and then delve a little more into the not so obvious.

Some of the best ways to exert control is by focusing on two powerful emotions: Love and Fear.

If I use the example that is heavily quoted in today's society "Would you rather be loved or feared"...A Bronx Tale, the significance of that line is shocking to the core and that is a prime example of how remote control is exerted.

1. Fear of loss: people will do strange/accept things when they fear being alone

2. Loves Looks: people will compromise themselves over and over again if they feel that their mate is too attractive to let them go.

3. Fear of physical: people will certainly cut short everyday living situations for fear of a physical confrontation

4. Love the attention: people will be so accustomed to getting the attention that they don't want to be ignored.

There are so many examples and I just used these 4 because they are easy to use. All of these feelings can cause a person to be "controlled" by their significant other even if time elapses or a person even moves out of town. The feelings of guilt/shame or just starting the dating game over again makes some people feel trapped and they can't get out...thus they are now being "remotely controlled."

The purpose of these posts are to recognize the patterns and give ourselves a fighting chance at falling back in love with ourselves. Not being defined by what another individual's influence over us projects, but by knowing and loving whom we are.

This is part 1(A) of a series on the remote control relationship bandit patterns. Stay tuned for regular updates.

It is extremely important that we not only change the channel of behavior, but that we also grab the remote and shatter it into millions of pieces...before we simply fade to black...

Anyone care to shed some additional light? The floor is yours.

I just thought it would be wise to repost the first installment before I did the second one. I hope that someone in the blogosphere can be helped from reading this and other relationship focused blogs around the world.

P.S....Second installment to follow on Thursday 8-9-07.

Pot Luck Friday...part XVIII

Dis shole duz look good!

This forum is officially a smash hit. I am excited to present once again POT LUCK FRIDAY.

What I would like to do is get some feed back from some non blogging readers or some bloggers that don't have the time to blog right now. An open forum, if you will. For example, the BET Awards, folks killing their family or how Eddie Murphy indeed was that baby pappy(lol..I loved the movie "life").

There is no topic off limits! I know that relationship posts are common but be more specific. What element of the relationships? Finding one, keeping one, how to get out of one..all are up for discussion and friendly debate.

I am an information junkie! Garbage in--garbage out! But, I still like to process information. So, I'd like to try to start a day where the readers are in control of every single question, we take the comment that is posted right before you, answer their comment question, then post your own question for the next person. We can discuss it in a civil manner. If it goes well, then it could be really fun. I must exercise more moderation on the personal topics comments. I got a few emails from some participants and I must agree that some of the comments were hurtful and should be handled off line...privately. Let's have fun and keep it clean...please---thank you.

Have a fantastic weekend and let's come up with some great questions to kick around the campfire!

So without further delay.....who is up for the challenge, part 18?

Cartoons...what did they teach us? repost!

This post kind of jumped out at me over the past few days. I've been reading some of the extremely thought provoking and pro African Americn posts and my objectivity went right out the damn window.

As you can see from recent weeks, I have been stuck in kind of a timewarp relating to cartoons and P.S.A.'s. School house has and will be some of my favorites forever. Yet, I can recall vividly some of my other cartoon classics and now they anger me more than I can laugh at them.

Let's take a walk down memory lane..shall we.



My man Daffy Duck. Other than the fact that he was funny, what were some of the other characteristics of this persona. Well let's see.

1. He was a hater!
2. He was plainly depicted as crazed and out of control
3. Portrayed as a sidekick in most episodes to Bugs Bunny
4. He was loud, obnoxious, and spoke with a speech impediment
I'll just stop there for a moment to pontificate on those ideas. oops...he was a black duck.

On to the next character. Do I really need to go into this one at all?....please! I'm disappointed in myself for not noticing this earlier.

click here==>: Thomassss!!!

Next up.....

Pepe LePew...a serial date rapist, stalker. In every episode, pepe chased chicks down, relentless in his approach, never took no for an answer and totally disrespected on every level. Funny..right? Of course it is..and what did they use to make it into a subtext joke? A black skunk. add into the equation the obvious odor that they referenced when in reality the only time you smelled a skunk is if they sprayed. hmmmm..another jacked up attack on my ethnicity.

moving right along.....

I loved this cartoon for real. Jokingly a fellow blogger recently referenced old cartoons and I was reminded of the fact that all of the names of the ethnic heroes displayed their heritage. ie:
1. Black Lightning
2. Black Panther
3. Apache Chief
4. Samurai Tornado
Just ridiculous...I thought about the new green lantern figure. Now a black dude. If the name would change to the "Black Green Lantern". WTF???

And last but not least...the lovable bugs...
Man, I don't know where to start. Let's just give it a little jumpstart.
1. Obvious gay, drag queen.
2. Always depicted as the good guy/defenseless victim
3. Always given the position of intelligence and leadership over other characters when there was more than one animal persona.

I'm just going to stop right there on him. Even in the picture above, it highlights the fact that Elmer Fudd is a closet gay man. Bugs kissed him on the lips without being checked or stopped numerous times when he wasn't in drag.

Oh and not to forget this point, the cartoons also showed that there would be no consequence for shooting someone in the face...other than a little black face and ruffled hair/hats for a quick second or a mouth get dislodged and reattached. What did that teach us, family?

I will make sure that I censor what my kids and young people around me watch. Times have changed and the influences kids have on them now makes those cartoons more dangerous than ever before.

LET'S PROTECT OUR CHILDREN, FAMILY!!

THIS HAS BEEN MY PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT!!!

FUGG YO COUCH...REMIX VERSION-repost!

*WARNING---THIS VIDEO IS A REMIX VERSION OF DAVE CHAPPELLE IN THE SKIT AS RICK JAMES.**

THE LANGUAGE IS VERY CHAPPELLE-LIKE SO PLEASE DON'T WATCH IT IF PROFANITY OR THE "N"WORD IS OFFENSIVE.

I JUST THINK IT'S HILARIOUS.



FOR ALL MY FELLOW CHAPPELLE SHOW FANS...HERE YA GO!

I'M GOING TO GET IN TROUBLE IF I DON'T LET THIS GUY'S HUMOR GET OUT OF MY SYSTEM.
ENJOY, FAM!

THANKS CORTNEY GEE FOR SENDING ME THIS VIDEO!!!

"operation moisture" update....

me..doing my favorite relaxation excercise...waterin the lawn!

I told you that noone else even spits on their lawn. I hate that. look down the street at the desert storm block. Next in line is that damn crack in the drive. It's just 3 weeks in and I'm finding stuff that irks me.

hahahahahahaha.

Peace, fam.

Sometimes ya gotta say....WTF!!!

Keeping in line with the "theme days" so that I don't drain all of my reserve tank dry from working on book projects, recruiting, and blogging, there shall be another instituted theme day. Today and henceforth Wednesdays shall be named...WTF WEDNESDAY!!!!!

There is no set subject. Anything that is on your mind. It is an open forum where the first lines of each comment start with WTF...now that could mean what the frick, where the frick, why the frick, who the frick, etc., but each comment should start with WTF.


Here's a prime example of a WTF moment in THIS AOL STORY about public displays of affection being a crime in other parts of the world...ummm like Beijing. WTF(what)...I'd be in huge trouble from back in da day?!

Have fun and keep it as clean as possible, fam.

Have a fantastic day!

P.S....don't forget to check out CapCity's Wednesday Wisdoms.