tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post7408682839352828864..comments2023-11-02T05:08:39.327-05:00Comments on I am inspired: Monday Musings...part IIIdc_speakshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06357394041753433558noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-12253213814799217372007-07-02T21:04:00.000-05:002007-07-02T21:04:00.000-05:00definitely a nurturer...love, love, love to help p...definitely a nurturer...love, love, love to help people, but i'm not too proud to accept help when it is offered...i definitely appreciate knowing someone has my back...lisa q.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16685625884419877570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-16386061563260664972007-07-02T20:43:00.000-05:002007-07-02T20:43:00.000-05:00DC,This one hit the spot. I was just told that I ...DC,<BR/>This one hit the spot. I was just told that I let my pride get in the way of me seeking help in any way.<BR/><BR/>I have to say that I am the one that would deny the help because I try to be there for others I don't know how to except help......<BR/><BR/>Issues man....I got issues :P<BR/><BR/>DC this was a good one.<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>Issues man...issues :PAlways wanting to know....https://www.blogger.com/profile/18315374995777093157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-11666304655149975962007-07-02T19:50:00.000-05:002007-07-02T19:50:00.000-05:00Ahhh great question!As a therapist I am one of tho...Ahhh great question!<BR/><BR/>As a therapist I am one of those who is usually the listener, comforter! :-)<BR/><BR/>There was a time in my life where it was a little difficult to accept help but those days are long gone! LOL!<BR/><BR/>Blessings DC...<BR/><BR/>JJJennifer Joneshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04593797320592103928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-60305912467354879052007-07-02T18:47:00.001-05:002007-07-02T18:47:00.001-05:00Stopping by to say Hello :)Stopping by to say Hello :)*Tanyetta*https://www.blogger.com/profile/14339189484151758472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-19805290206060797982007-07-02T18:47:00.000-05:002007-07-02T18:47:00.000-05:00Okay, who's been lookin' in my luggage, dc? LOL! W...Okay, who's been lookin' in my luggage, dc? LOL! WOW~ I have working on this one for a while, and I have to agree with Nikki in that one has to look at THEIR motivation for assisting---is it to have everyone look at you and say MAN! or do you genuinely want to assist,desiring nothing (no glory, thank you) other than to serve? I'm trying to be the person in the latter example, but sadly, there are more times than I am comfortable with, that I am the former. How do I know? Because when I don't get that feedback (read: glory), I'm more than a little let down... and I have a real hard time accepting help...***quietly leaving the room to inspect a few more pieces in that bag***Jacquelinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11810848435702702553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-31541357166943932012007-07-02T16:49:00.000-05:002007-07-02T16:49:00.000-05:00Yeah, yeah, yeah! LOLI'm normally that nurturing p...Yeah, yeah, yeah! LOL<BR/><BR/>I'm normally that nurturing person, too...always trying to help when I can. I'm quickly learning, though, that when you do offer to help, you get BURNED (trying to heal my third-degree burns now). Especially when a mo-fo ASKS for your help & then turns around and says f-you.<BR/><BR/>As far as asking for help...RARELY! I usually find myself turning down help or asistance for fear of there being a hidden agenda. You hope that someones doing something out of the goodness of their heart, but waaaaay to often there's an alterier-motive.KIKIhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13766890795172671563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-82096900252309470352007-07-02T16:34:00.000-05:002007-07-02T16:34:00.000-05:00I am a nurturer, lover, comforter...lay in my bosu...I am a nurturer, lover, comforter...lay in my bosum... LOL---<BR/><BR/>Although I don't seek others often, it is good to know that I can depend on someone--Ticiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13956393573041401364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-60720500797919426242007-07-02T16:32:00.000-05:002007-07-02T16:32:00.000-05:00I'm the type of person who'd be willing to help an...I'm the type of person who'd be willing to help any person in need once they were'nt asking me to do anything harmful or anything illegal.<BR/><BR/>However, I can't really say that I turn to many people for help myself. Think it's a high in pride thang with me.<BR/><BR/>I got that whole <I><B>"I got this"</I></B> ---attitude down to a science LOL.Miss Snarky Pantshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11029762400845095202noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-59775270613625711622007-07-02T16:28:00.000-05:002007-07-02T16:28:00.000-05:00Thanks for the complement, this is totally off the...Thanks for the complement, this is totally off the subject and what not but I hope you are doing better now man.<BR/><BR/>PEACE-EM-OUTTIE!!Rayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02206518730724388281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-11252972776883714262007-07-02T14:32:00.000-05:002007-07-02T14:32:00.000-05:00hey chokkk...what it doski? how's the new mommy t...hey chokkk...what it doski? how's the new mommy to be doing?<BR/><BR/>tc: can never ever lose with momma...ever!!<BR/><BR/>nikki: what up girl? glad to see your cyber face. so you're a fixer huh? thats pretty interesting. <BR/><BR/>The diva: i pegged ya huh? purely coincidental of course...smile.<BR/><BR/>mark: i'd have to think about those questions you posed brotha mark. give me a min and i'll shoot you a private email unless you open it up for public conversation.<BR/><BR/>i am glad ya'lls feeling this though.dc_speakshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06357394041753433558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-8247357406945399882007-07-02T13:50:00.000-05:002007-07-02T13:50:00.000-05:00Ok I am the nice guy that is trying to make things...Ok I am the nice guy that is trying to make things nice. So I think that makes me a nurterer. <BR/><BR/>Also being a nurterer serves my ego because one ways I get my jollies off is by helping people. <BR/><BR/>So my question is this if I get great pleasure out of helping people am I helping people because it boost my ego. <BR/><BR/>Also is helping people because it strokes my ego a purely selfish exercise in this instance?Dangerfieldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01881999761526327887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-72114670046988904562007-07-02T13:48:00.000-05:002007-07-02T13:48:00.000-05:00This would be me.... "are you the person that is t...This would be me.... <I>"are you the person that is too strong to let anyone see you in a moment of weakness"</I>Diva's Thoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16177643214210147206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-40369717830578593072007-07-02T12:55:00.000-05:002007-07-02T12:55:00.000-05:00i don't know...there's the nurturer and then there...i don't know...there's the nurturer and then there's the 'fixer'. the 'nuturer' is the one who gives just enough to assist in empowering. they don't guide, they aid, equip the person with the tools so that he/she can guide him/herself.<BR/><BR/>the 'fixer' is the one who thinks he/she has all the answers and is supportive to a point, so long as the advice is followed. he/she gets the ego trip when folk follow his/her advice and isn't open to advice from someone else because that other person doesn't know as much as he/she knows. the 'fixer' takes it personal when the person seeking advice doesn't take it.<BR/><BR/>sometimes my actions are ego-driven and i fall into 'fixer' category. however, i'm a nurturer too, although i have to admit i think i'm more of a 'fixer'. something i have to work on.nikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06971419502034051817noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-78380316897692241912007-07-02T11:52:00.000-05:002007-07-02T11:52:00.000-05:00yep i am the one that's ALWAYS there ALWAYS nuturi...yep i am the one that's ALWAYS there ALWAYS nuturing...but I will GLADLY take someone looking out for me, problem is, that I have to accept people for who they are and understand that people won't ALWAYS be there for me like I'll would be there for them, so sometimes I keep things to myself and won't ask, and I think that's why, because us giviers NEVER seem to have someone give back to us in the same way...BUT we HAVE to remember to just appreciate what is given when its given....and then is ALWAYS Momma!!!T.a.c.Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03764565798496512732noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-31376010363251126992007-07-02T10:07:00.000-05:002007-07-02T10:07:00.000-05:00what up soj g.---good comment, son. I feel ya on ...what up soj g.---good comment, son. I feel ya on that too<BR/><BR/>@c.: thanks for the first time drop by, I've been how I am my whole life too.<BR/><BR/>great comments!dc_speakshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06357394041753433558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-89904288133673476462007-07-02T10:05:00.000-05:002007-07-02T10:05:00.000-05:00I am generally the one that nurtures...or offers a...I am generally the one that nurtures...or offers advice and the shoulder to lean on when it comes to my friends and family. They hardly ever offer that back though...I would be open to receiving that support if offered. Most always, I can only gain that support from my man...and I guess that is the way it should be...but it would be good to get that from my friends too.chokkklitsoulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11084735039341373418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-43719218334194271962007-07-02T09:45:00.000-05:002007-07-02T09:45:00.000-05:00I am a natural nurturer and it is extremely diffic...I am a natural nurturer and it is extremely difficult for me to ask or receive help. I feel weak if I ask for help. It is something that I am working on and I have friends that press upon me to let go and allow others to help. Not a easy lesson to learn when you have been doing for yourself all of your life.The Re-inventing of C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/06474003156292019718noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-28211413415977467672007-07-02T09:40:00.000-05:002007-07-02T09:40:00.000-05:00Wow Bruh. Excellent question. I am that rescuer,...Wow Bruh. Excellent question. I am that rescuer, protector, knight in shining armor type. I was raised to be that way and now don't know anything else.<BR/><BR/>For this reason, it's hard to accept help from others because I think it's my job. I'm not foolish enough to think I don't need help and don't have shortcomings, but I've helped most of the people I know. i don't want to destroy anything in their eyes, so I don't ask when I need. It's part of the rescue of them. Catch 22 really.<BR/><BR/>Gonna think more about that...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-62952338289284527082007-07-02T09:16:00.000-05:002007-07-02T09:16:00.000-05:00hey fam....glad ya'll feeling this post.heyyyyyyyy...hey fam....glad ya'll feeling this post.<BR/><BR/>heyyyyyyyyy, Saadia...MF!<BR/><BR/>hey, op diva...i'm speaking to you too huh, outstanding.<BR/><BR/>Paula D: I'm an only child so I can only partially relate.dc_speakshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06357394041753433558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-4031822045166672532007-07-02T08:59:00.000-05:002007-07-02T08:59:00.000-05:00You are definitely talking to me on this one :-). ...You are definitely talking to me on this one :-). I am the first born....so I've always been older sister & a nurturer.<BR/><BR/>Yep, it is extrememly hard for me to ask for help. I always feel like I can take care of anything.Paula D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11107241514768232814noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-1175501492750203832007-07-02T08:47:00.000-05:002007-07-02T08:47:00.000-05:00Wow...this REALLY made me think you were inside my...Wow...this REALLY made me think you were inside my head! lol<BR/><BR/>I am the natural nurturer. I'm the oldest of seven (which includes the 3 cousins my mom raised) and I am alllllllllllways the one people come to for help. Even if it's for stuff I know nothing about. If I can help, I normally will, or I'll find out information where they can get help. I think this is one of the reasons that makes me so good at my job.<BR/><BR/>Asking for help is hard for me... really hard. I'm one of those prefectionist Virgos...lol...that must do everything myself, which can drive a lot of people crazy.Jazzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01186973972482369982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-29123122964941048982007-07-02T08:38:00.000-05:002007-07-02T08:38:00.000-05:00I guess that this post doesn't apply to me because...I guess that this post doesn't apply to me because I look to help people all the time.<BR/><BR/>muahahahahhahahhah :)Saadiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04240365376170214782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-77573424395196239662007-07-02T07:25:00.000-05:002007-07-02T07:25:00.000-05:00nope...you're not the only one that is suspicious....nope...you're not the only one that is suspicious. It is surprising to hear with the elections taking place in 2008. Though I expected them, it came about 6-9 months before I thought they would start to surface.dc_speakshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06357394041753433558noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7660332642942740500.post-32073614626489399372007-07-02T07:03:00.000-05:002007-07-02T07:03:00.000-05:00Am I the only person that thinks suspiciously abou...Am I the only person that thinks suspiciously about terro alerts being raised and "plots" popping up all over the place as we close in on election time?CreoleInDChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02191794698013658999noreply@blogger.com